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special relationshipsVictoria Kelli said Feb 26, 6:56 AM: |
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last week i read about “special relationships” and how they are full of sorrow, guilt and pain. i have had multiple experiences to justify that statement. i am in or was in or in but not really?…..a relationship AMCI would classifiy as a special realtionship. we (he and i) asked the holy spirit to enter into our relationship to transform it from an unholy to a holy relationship. in ACIM it says the holy spirit (in chapter V. The Healed Relationship) will “come in very rapidly, but it makes the relationship seem distubred, disjunctive and even quite distressing.” and my relationship has become just that. the only thing to do is to have faith in the holy spirit in accepting the new goal of the relationship as the “only way out of conflict.” |
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Re: special relationshipsonemind said Feb 27, 6:03 PM: |
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Victoria….. For an unholy relationship is based on differences, where each one thinks the other has what he has not. They come together, each too complete himself and rob the other. They stay until they think that there is nothing left to steal, and then move on. And so they wander through a world of strangers, unlike themselves, living with their bodies perhaps under a common roof that shelters neither; in the same room and yet a world apart. What makes a relationship special in the teachings of the Course is the notion of separation; we love this one more than that one or more than ourselves. As long as we see another as separate from us, we violate a key teaching of the Course, namely the essential Oneness of All That Is. Nobody understands this better or writes more eloquently about it than Marianne Williamson. In her book A Return to Love, she says (p. 95), “God created only one begotten Son and He loves all of us as one. To Him, no one is different or special because no one is actually separate from anyone else.” That only begotten one, the course teaches, is us. “The special relationship,” she says on p. 97, “makes other people too important. The special relationship is a device by which the ego separates rather than joins us.”A holy relationship starts from a different premise. Each one has looked within and seen no lack. Accepting his completion, he would extend it by joining with another, whole as himself. The ideal, then, is to love all of our brothers (and sisters) equally. We can then make a choice to love or to demonstrate love in a different way to some individuals, provided we don’t single them out for a special brand of love itself. This is one of the Course’s most difficult – and, I believe, most important – teachings. It is enormously difficult to integrate into our lives of seeming separateness from our innate divinity and from those who seem separate from us. I commend you for bringing the light of Spirit to your relationship and encourage you to experience it as a joining together of two complete peole for the greater glory of God and not as what Marianne calls “the joining at the hipof two emotional invalids.” Peace |
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