Constantly standing in the closet!

I know that i'm not bi-curios but i kept on telling myself that becuase i could “never” be gay.  I use to enjoy watching porn a little bit to much and realise that i like fantasizing about girls rather than the men.  I could never tell a soul! I guess its my cross that i must bear!
 
P.S My Husband would hate me!

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I hope this offers a little comfort here, but it's not unusual for women to fantasize about other women during sex or self-love, whether they are bi-, straight, whatever.  It's very common and normal.  And, as a man, I don't really think it's a problem if my partner likes boobies.  Who can blame her?  They're boobies, for Pete's sake!

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I watch the girls in porn more than the guys, and sometimes I fantasize about girls. I'm not gay, and I don't think it's unusual. I think most girls are like that!!

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Hey there… I think it's Beautiful and not “a cross to bear”, because you simply Love Everybody!!! A Universexual!!! Welcome to the club! ;-)

It's A Good Thing,
Resurrected1

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Warm greetings and bright blessings,

“universexual”…nice thought that. We are in a transitory time where we have unprecedented opportunity to evolve, or, face de-evolution / extinction. In no other time in history have we been so connected, so able to learn, grow, and share ideas across the planet with virtually anyone. This spirit rejoices, and hopes that this will result in the evolution rather than the other.
Part of this spirit's understanding is the distinction between animal attraction, and spiritual attraction. Animal attraction is part and parcel of every person. Spiritual atttraction is a process of discovery. From the spiritual perspective, all things and all creatures are no less beautiful than any other, and if two (or more) really connect, then the physical actions become an extension of that. To distinguish or “grade” or discriminate based soley upon physical appearance or gender of another is violence. This spirit is male this time round, and, the animality of me is tempered by the spiritual aspect. This spirit sees the beauty in all things, and, is naturally attracted to that beauty whether it be feminine or masculine. Whether a physical relationship ensues however is a whole process of connecting. If this spirit were to connect completely spiritually with another male, there would be no distinction that just because they were male, I would withhold from them a physical relationship just because of their gender.
Homo, les, bi, gay, etc. are all labels that not only permit discrimination and negative thinking, but are a form of violence in and of themselves. If you can be at one with another, be open to unconditional sharing and love. Don't let gender stand in your way.

Love and Light

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From a social standpoint, the stereotype of beauty is usually associated with women rather than men. This is why is more common to see girls appreciating beauty of people of their same sex.

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You know…  I used to have about 10 gay friends, so i've always been a very gay rights fan.  However, the best person i've found to explain bi-curiousness to men would be Ron White in blue collar comedy.  he said something along the line of this with a friend who was very anti-gay

friend: Man I just don't understand them gays, that's disgusting.
Ron: Oh come on man, they aren't that bad.  Hell, even you're a little gay.
friend: WHAT!?  I'm not gay!  I'm not even a little!!  I'd never be caught dead being gay!
(Obviously very upset at the notion)
Ron: Alright, i'll prove it to ya.  You watch porn right?
friend: yeah so what?
Ron: well when they're getting hot and heavey do you wanna see a guy with a small flappy ##%@#$
friend: Hell no!  I want a see a giant monster pounding that…  Oh my GOD!!!

I think everyone is just a little bi if not more.  I think the contrast of loving men and loving women can be further understood by being open.  If you know what both sides has to offer to you specifically, then you can make a better evaluation of the one you want by using a comparison.  Or, you could just like both =)  that's jiffy with me too!

In the end, be yourself and don't let anyone hold you back.  Life is meant to be lived happily, not to be lived in fear.

Sincerely,
Carl

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And…

If you truly love another, have a connection that merges your spirits, would sacrifice your being for theirs to protect them, find yourselves lost in each others live, emotions and eyes…that kind of a connection…does it really matter what “equipment” they have? For this spirit, all those distinctions cease to exist in the light of true love.

Love and Light

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Stuart's right, i should have included something about the love part too.  Guess i let my logic run away with me again : (

Ususally we are taught that gay is wrong because the bible says so.  But the bible also says that love is shared between two people beyond a physical level.  If you trully love someone, as Stuart mentioned, why should you hold yourself back?

Sincerely,
Carl

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Have you watched Brokeback Mountain? It's a good example of how peculiar sexual behaviors are totally misunderstood and detrived by society