Long distance (annoymous)

I want to break up with my boyfriend because i don't think that i could be faithful to him anymore.

Re: Long distance (annoymous)

I made that mistake of being unfaithful to my girlfriend and it was the biggest regret of my life.  I was with my girlfriend for four years, she was the love of my life and still is, I still don't know if I could give any one the love I gave to her.  I applied to college at the same school she did just to be with her, even though it was the entirly wrong school for me.  After two years our love grew stronger and I decided to tell her the truth of why I was going to that school she felt bad and long story short I am where I am now, 3,000 miles away from her at the perfect school for me.  Yet the distant strained but we stood strong, except one night, I was a little drunk and had an affair with a girl I want to school with, the biggest mistake of my life.  I told my girlfriend a month after the events and she broke up with me.  I was devistated and still am.  Like I said she is the love of my life, yet what hurst worst is hurting her.  I wish I never did that to her.  I would use your best judgement, but guilt of trying to lie for a month and the guilt of hurting her makes the break up hurt more, I never wanted our love to end that way, I would have much rather had it fade not because of me being unfaithful.

Re: Long distance (annoymous)

Anonymous,
there are obsticales that we all go through.  It's how we get over those obsticals that makes us who we are.  If you want to get around the obstical by loving him through many miles, then that's what you need to do.  But if you honostly can't feel him enough and he isn't a part of you enough to still date him, then maybe you should let him go…  In the end, a relationship like that can be detrimental to both of you, not just you.  In some ways, you may need to ask yourself if he would be better off this way.  If you are really close and still find ways to love each other, then i say stay.  In the end, it is up to your heart and your mind will do what it says.

Nick,
you had the same problem and i think your heart may have given you what you needed.  I won't make assumptions and i won't pretend to know how much you loved her but your soul, spirit, and heart will slip you into situations that make life the best for them.  Though what you did was your fault and thought the blame is still on your shoulders, you might want to realize that this part of you had grown as much as it could with her and needed to move on.  Though i won't assume about your love with her, I, for one, know what it's like to love someone three thousand miles away from you.  It slowly drives you crazy and erodes the love you had in your heart.  I would have married her if i could have but over time, my mind and heart played tricks on me to blame her for things that i had done to myself.  That chapter of your life is over and when it's all said and done and as you said, it would have probably ended anyways.  We all have shames in our past and we all have to deal with them.  Instead on dwelling on what we did do wrong, concentrate on how to avoid it next time.  I'm sorry for your loss but you may find that it was the best mistake you ever made…

SIncerely to both of you,
Carl