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Erotic Power Exchange

This pod explores all aspects of erotic power exchange. What IS erotic power exchange? It is an aspect of sexuality that is based heavily on the use of imagination, intuition, and courageous communication. This aspect of sexuality provides a way for us to find and push on our preconceived boundaries, limitations, and judgments. Erotic power exchange allows us to...(more)
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  David : stumbling towards enlightenment

pain and humiliation

David said Sep 10, 2006, 12:13 PM:
 

Why is it that sometimes surrendering ourselves to pain in the form of spanking, nipple play or humiliation brings us satisfaction?

 

Re: pain and humiliation

C A M E L O T [no longer around] said Sep 11, 2006, 5:47 AM:
 

For me, the idea is a turn on…..the idea is the turn on. I have no distinction of 'high stimulation' versus 'pain' only I ve read it somewhere that if it really is painful…..it isn't BDSM :)

I believe same goes for 'humiliation' and 'torture'. Doesnt feel right means it aint. My two cents anyway…..


What does everyone think?
  Squee : that kid

Re: pain and humiliation

Squee said Jan 18, 2008, 12:38 PM:
 

to me its not the torture its giving myself over  mind body and soul to my master its one of the highest forms of love in my belief
  Sage : Sexual Superhero

Re: pain and humiliation

Sage said Sep 22, 2006, 6:27 PM:
 

Isnt’ that also like asking why is it that I love the taste of chocolate or hate the taste of liver? A better question is why is it that we judge ourselves for enjoying what we enjoy? Why do we question what we enjoy? What is it about surrender or the experience of erotic humiliation or physical intensity that we even question why we derive satisfaction from it? Why do we not question other forms of satisfaction like a bubble bath or a cup of tea, orgasm, or laughter with friends?

Interesting reframe, yes?
 

Re: pain and humiliation

C A M E L O T [no longer around] said Sep 23, 2006, 4:54 AM:
 

Exactly, sage, and I notice I have done that, I have questioned why, it is as if gay people were doing that once a long, long time ago, perhaps millenia ago and D/s folk are still there, in that dark place of self doubt.

Well some are and some arent, we here tend toward much self reflection and self analysis would be I guess :)
 

Re: pain and humiliation

C A M E L O T [no longer around] said Sep 23, 2006, 4:59 AM:
 

Let us say
we did not call what we like

B D S M

let us say when we have sex
we like some
spanking
or to be called daddy…..
just for the fun of it :)

let s say we know it s fun to drip candlewax
or call names

let s say we are just playing
cops and robbers
master and slave
daddy and naughty girl

and let us say, that it is all good :)
 

Re: pain and humiliation

Ram said Dec 18, 2006, 6:37 PM:
 

does role play help power exchange
Hugs
Ram
  Sage : Sexual Superhero

Re: pain and humiliation

Sage said Dec 28, 2006, 9:59 PM:
 

I think role play is an aspect of erotic power exchange. Sometimes role play can be mixed with pain and/or humiliation. To me, the world of erotic power exchange is a huge smorgasbord of mix and match or just the one or two bits that you like. IMHO, the idea is to know thyself and then be honest in communication with others.