The heart of the matter is that there is nothing the matter with our hearts.  It is not love that is to blame.  But each of us has resistance to the very love we desire.  We also have resistance to the space and independence we need.  So we go back and forth, not letting ourselves have one or the other.  Sometimes it is difficult to accept that it is our own resistance, rather than other people or the world, that is responsible for out problems.  Try on the idea, though, because it has powerful consequences.  It means that you are in charge again, and are in a position in which you can do something about how your life goes.

It boils down to this:  Are you willing to have your relationships be a pathway to fully revealing yourself and your potential?  If your answer is yes, real intimacy can be yours on a dail basis.

You are the absolute creator of what happens to you.  This means now.  […] There is awesome power in knowing this fact.  As long as there is even one tiny part of you that thinks the world is doing it to you, the world is going to do it to you.  When you know 100% that you create it, you will start influencing the world around you in a much bigger and more positive way.