The quintessential viewpoint, which we have forgotten, is that of the primal universal creator.  So the first step back to that viewpoint is to accept that were we are is exactly and only where we are.  To begin the process of sorting out or lives, we must own and appreciate the circumstances we found ourselves in right now - continuously.

Realize that in this moment we are exactly where we once decided we wanted to be.  There is no point in second guessing the wisdom behind our decision.  It made sense at the time.  When we assume responsibility for our lives, we will begin to appreciate the wisdom of all our creations, and we will find in them empowering lessons.  As we learn, the solidity of our reality will begin to soften and dissolve, layer by layer, until we behold the core beliefs that created it.