Kira : Creative Quester

Re: What America IS and What America MEANS

Kira said Jan 5, 2007, 6:44 PM:

 

hi Nishtha,

sorry it's taken me so long to add something to this thread – it's been a busy week

your post reminded me of an experience I had many years ago in Scotland – I've spent a lot of time in Scotland, and years ago I became good friends with an English family that had moved to the Scottish Highlands – I spent time with them on several trips there and got to know them well – one evening the man said something that fascinated me – he said that there was so much anti-American sentiment in Europe – such disdain for the rampant materialism and cowboy foreign policy and all the rest – but he said that he saw in me and in some other Americans he'd met a quality that, to him, embodied the best of America – a claiming of our permission to be ourselves and to not always be making excuses for ourselves – he said that the way he was raised in England, he was always apologizing for himself and hesitating to take up any space – we had a pretty interesting discussion about the cultural differences

this also reminds me of something Caroline Myss said many years ago in a workshop I attended – that humanity goes through evolutionary stages – the first stage is tribal thinking (everything for the group) – the second stage is individualism (as in the group version of the psyche individuating, which is a very healthy step), and the third stage is healthy interdependence, where we're able to retain our freedom and we also relate to each other as part of the same organism, if you will – it seems to me that America as we know it has paved the way for the second stage, but (as Caroline said) many Americans forget, or don't know, that there's anything beyond individualism