Excerpt Step 7.

  Take Charge: The R-Factor

In The ClearView Conspiracy, Chiquita talks about the kind of responsibility that makes or breaks the quality of our lives, regulates the drama-soup around us and creates peace in the world. She says, “[…] virtually everything that ‘gives' us a strong emotional response, such as anger, sadness or fear, has nothing to do with the outside world. These emotions indicate that parts of us are bruised, insecure and still unconscious. We are triggered and must assume complete responsibility. Blaming others for our emotional imbalance will only perpetuate the drama. Whenever we are triggered, we must stop and take responsibility.”

           
It's similar to having someone accidentally bump against your bruised arm. It's not the person who bumps into you, who caused the pain; no… it's your bruise. And the pain is really a blessing, because it reminds you to take care of your bruise.

           
When life is getting hard and painful, it usually indicates that we are paddling upstream. Let's not blame the river for flowing toward the ocean, it is meant to go there-and so are you. Only you can turn the boat around. It's your responsibility.

If you want to assume your role as powerful creator, you must take full responsibility for all your thoughts, feelings and actions. You must remember that you and your circumstances are products of your own creation. You are in charge!

Re: Excerpt Step 7.

Nell, I said I would write more about mirroring, I'll just repost and add more.

I'm going to say that my Awakening was that I could see that it is all a dream. Everyone has thier own dream but for one to be awaken, one has to see that everyone has thier own dream but they have not been in thier own dream but in everybody elses. Now that I have been awaken, I find the only suffering that I experience is when I get back into somebody else's dream. That help's me to know that I am not all the way awaken yet because when I am then I will not be getting into anybody else's dream. Today when I find myself in somebody else's dream, the only thing I would see wrong would be if I didn't see why I had to go there in the first place. I know if I did not learn why , then I will have to return some other time until I do learn why I had to go there. You may want to find out why you came here.

As a child my parents and family would tell me how to act and react, they had passed down to me everything that was passed down to them and like everyone does they add a little to it. I can remember thinking many time's , I don't like this ! and when I grow up, I am going to do what I want to do ! By the time I grew up, I forgot who I am, who I was. I had buried who I am with who I am not ! So I take off into the world, well not the world just my country and a tiny part of it. I'm suppose to make something of myself, I remember getting lost more than once and I never liked the feeling that I felt when ever I got lost. It never dawn on me that the thing that I seen out side of my body that I liked or did not like, was what was inside of my body. 

I was trapped inside of my body, you notice I said my body because that is what it is, it is not who I am, it is where I am. What I see that is outside of me that I like or I do not like, I am aware that it is a reflection of what is inside of my body, who I really am and who I am really not. The Buddhist has a saying, ” take what is good for you and leave the rest ” I don't clame to be Buddhist,but I will say, I am part of everything. Now what I see outside of me that I like, is what I believe is good although that could change, but until it does, it will help me to feel good. What I see outside of me that I do not like is inside of me. I want to say before we go any farther I wish it was someone else explaining this and maybe by saying so there will be.:-) I know if I don't like it then I must get it out, until I do like it, then bring it back. I have found that when I don't like something it is most of the time because I don't understand it, and most of the time I don't understand something is just because somebody else didn't and they told me not to like it either!! I have learned a lot from this good and this bad and I hope I have not confused anybody so far but what I'm about to say may confuse some of you but that's alright to be confused until you get unconfused. Now that I've learned that I had covered myself up with all this bad and I got it out of me, well like I said earlyer the good can change, well I have found that I'm not the good either. I know today that I'm just not that that is outside, if it's good or bad.

My sister's oldest daughter does not care for me at all,it's because she sees herself in me. She said's the devil is in me, what she is seeing is what is in her, this reflection, this mirroring can go in many directions,by this I mean one can see what one wants to see. I have never done anything to this girl or woman, she is 30 year's old. She does not know who or what she is but I do and I am glad that I can help her, she does not know that I am helping her but I do, and someday she will to. She may oppose me but I am not opposeing her, I see in her that that was in me and that that is in me and that is that.:-) When I tell someone that I am going to learn how to live not how to die, and they tell me that's crazy and I say and learning how to die is not!!! I hope there are some that don't understand this but don't say I'm wrong, without explaining it, what mirroring means to you. This is what it is going to take for us all to learn more to add to what we already have learned, or subtract from what we have learned, either way you look at it if you don't use what you got you aint got nothing, that's my experience anyway.I got my son saying to hisself and other's, “My daddy said's how can you be right if your never wrong ” I like this myself because I never learn anything from being right, so I like being wrong. I got to go for now.
Your friend,Don

Re: Excerpt Step 7.

I would like to comment on this,

It's similar to having someone accidentally bump against your bruised arm. It's not the person who bumps into you, who caused the pain; no… it's your bruise. And the pain is really a blessing, because it reminds you to take care of your bruise.

This is what I've been trying to share with others, when someone saids something and it hurts you, then it is in you, when two people are just talking and one saids something that the other one is offended by, if the one that is offended only knew that this other person did not come to hurt you, but has come to help you to see what it is that is hurting you. Now I am aware of this and when I feel offended, as soon as I become aware of it, and I mean the sooner the better. I ask myself, why does this bother me? And right away I see why, without saying a word to the other person, there is no need to share it with the other person because chances are the other don't even understand that they were there to help you.

When my wife would say to me, I don't think I like what you said, I just look at her and say, I think you need to find out why, because if you feel the thorn then the thorn is in you, she would say, yes I do. I had taught her this. After a couple of years, and this happen one day and I said to her, do you not think you don't say or do things that bother me? She asked do I and I said yes you do all the time but when I am bothered by someones words or actions, I just ask myself why am I bothered and I hear that small voice say it's in you. And I can say it was in me!!!