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I would like to comment on this,
It's similar to having someone accidentally bump against your bruised arm. It's not the person who bumps into you, who caused the pain; no… it's your bruise. And the pain is really a blessing, because it reminds you to take care of your bruise.
This is what I've been trying to share with others, when someone saids something and it hurts you, then it is in you, when two people are just talking and one saids something that the other one is offended by, if the one that is offended only knew that this other person did not come to hurt you, but has come to help you to see what it is that is hurting you. Now I am aware of this and when I feel offended, as soon as I become aware of it, and I mean the sooner the better. I ask myself, why does this bother me? And right away I see why, without saying a word to the other person, there is no need to share it with the other person because chances are the other don't even understand that they were there to help you.
When my wife would say to me, I don't think I like what you said, I just look at her and say, I think you need to find out why, because if you feel the thorn then the thorn is in you, she would say, yes I do. I had taught her this. After a couple of years, and this happen one day and I said to her, do you not think you don't say or do things that bother me? She asked do I and I said yes you do all the time but when I am bothered by someones words or actions, I just ask myself why am I bothered and I hear that small voice say it's in you. And I can say it was in me!!!
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