Married men seeking guys for homosexual experience

I would like to know if anyone has any idea behind this so-called phenomenon of married straight men seeking out other guys for a homosexual experience?  Could it be that sexuality is not strictly defined to one extreme or the other?  I am curious to what others have about a take on this.  Thanks, Vernon.

Re: Married men seeking guys for homosexual experience

“Could it be that sexuality is not strictly defined to one extreme or the other?”

If you mean one extreme being straight and one being gay, then I would ask if you've heard of the Kinsey scale. I'm bisexual, and right in the middle of the Kinsey scale. Orientation is not a matter of two (or three) choices, it's a continuum.

As far as married men seeking out homosexual experiences, it could be that they're bisexual, or it could be that they always had an attraction to men but never pursued it because of the social backlash. Or perhaps they could never admit to themselves that they were gay. Who knows? Personally, I believe that as long as both spouses agree to the extramarital sexual encounter, it's fine.

Re: Married men seeking guys for homosexual experience

I agree, Merykk! People so often assume that “heterosexuality” and “homosexuality” are opposites when sexuality (and gender for that matter) is a spectrum. I too identify as bisexual, and am amazed how often people assume that a person can only be completely straight or completely gay.

And yes, there are many many reasons why men who are attracted to other men get married and then seek male companionship, whether it's the desire to get married in order to confirm to the heteronormative principles our society dictates, or whether it's because they are attracted to men and women and have fallen in love with a man while married. Or a thousand other reasons.

Thank you both for your posts, and I hope you have a great day.

Take care,
jenna