Friends and family - 'The New Strangers'

Let me try to explain what I mean with this heading.

It has been such a blessing to 'awaken', and I am experiencing this as 'a rebirth within one lifetime'.

Yet, when this starts to happen a little later in life, in my case in my thirties, I have found my friends, family, and most of my daily environment have become 'The New Strangers'. They say they 'don't get me', they even worry a bit about 'my path' I think, and they are not happy talking to me about what 'makes me tick'.

Finding a balance in that is quite a challenge for me, sometimes a very painful one. I want to be accepting and respectful to them. But having to push down who I really am (and always was - I guess I just had too little selflove to give into it and let it out) is hard. Maybe it's just about letting go of the old…?!

Does this ring bells with any of you? I would love to hear about it.

Hopefully sharing our experiences will bring positive strenght where needed.

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Maybe it's just about letting go of the old…?!

its not maybe… it is…  PERIOD…

and i tell u from 2 different perspective…

one… look at yourself….  u own your life and create your world the way u want…. now someone can come and ask u to slow down or ask u to speed up….  now being your own master, u know the best your speed and u got to honor that….

the same for others…  give them the space to be who they r and choose the path and the speed they wonna choose…  and thats it….

so u travel with those that run at your speed at all time… now when u learn u can run at different speed (or different frequency and different vibration) just honer that and embrace it… and allow others to come with u or stay where they r or choose a third or fouth what ever option…

now check the butterfly to be… its still in a cacoon….  and soon to transform….  now if u go and punch open the cacoon to help become a butterfly…  it will die and never  become butterly…

the same with people….

we can talk on skype more if u want but here is something i “hacked” from robyn's bathroom

love uuu

 

TO LET GO

(Hacked, by a Rainbow Hacker, from the bathroom wall of Robyn's apartment at the footsteps of Table Mountain in Cape Town, South Africa)

TO LET GO does not mean to stop caring; it means we cannot do it for someone else

TO LET GO is not to cut ourselves off, it is the realization we cannot control another

TO LET GO is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences

TO LET GO is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in our hands

TO LET GO is not to try to change or blame another; it is to make the most of ourselves

TO LET GO is not to care for, but to care about

TO LET GO is not to fix, but to be supportive

TO LET GO is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being

TO LET GO is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies

TO LET GO is not to be protective, but to permit another to face reality

TO LET GO is not to deny, but to accept

TO LET GO is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out our own shortcomings and correct them

TO LET GO is not to adjust everything to our desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish ourselves in it

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From my experience, beginning the inward journey at age 40, in 1975, it was as if a blast from Hell!

I dare not go into the long story (hehehe) here, but to spell it out a tiny bit: boom, boom, boom all in 1975: hysterectomy (hysterical??:), I enter collage, my husband refuses to sleep with me, my father disowns me, my daughter won't allow me to come to her wedding but allows her step-dad, that's just a tad of it.

It unfolds from there the entire family has not since then had a thing to do with me. In their Fundamentalist eyes, Buddhism is evil etc. My choosing to wander to India's ashrams & Intentional communities throughout the USA has gotten me the labels of: Crazy, mid-life crisis, cult member, ………..

What I lost? Makes no sense to go into that now!

Obviously much more to it (big smiles) some dangerous writing and adventurous living. I will jump off a cliff any time now before I'll allow others to design my learning process.

Blessings Little Dree, You too Princess.

Peggy J

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I have always marched to the beat of my own drummer, and I had to go through my period of wanting others to understand how wonderful tmy belief system is, but I had to learn to stay quiet. Instead I had to learn to walk my walk and just be me, without talking about it. I learned to just be who I am really, by example of how I live, how I take care of others, and how I spread love to the planet. “Ye shall know them by their works.”
So be true to who and what you are. Those who can't handle that will disapear into their own realm, whatever that looks like, and those who truly love you, will stay, for they will see the beauty of who you really are!

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“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter,
and those who matter don't mind.” Dr Seuss

Simplistic but true.

I found that when I could respect the people around me and accept them, without judgment,  where-ever they were/are in their own journey the easier it is/was for them to accept me.

You are not responsible for how they feel but you are responsible for how you feel about how they feel…got it? You do not need to defend your position.

If they are truly toxic get away…find new friends…

but if not toxic just let them be and don't take offense…It's easier than you might think if you just accept where you are.

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I can certainly relate to your about the new strangers. The shift I've gone through over the last 5 years has made many of my family think I'm strange.  With many friends and old neighbors I just can't talk about anything beyond small talk.  So I am very lucky to have a life partner that is going through the same thing with me and I have found new friends. 

I think it this is so much about the journey we are all on.  We are not all moving at the same pace and it can be difficult to be truly open about our evolving beliefs.   Opening to the world's options  is just too much for many of the people I grew up around.

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Dear Dree,


My friends, family, and most of my daily environment have become 'The New Strangers'. They say they 'don't get me', they even worry a bit about 'my path' I think, and they are not happy talking to me about what 'makes me tick'.
You are not alone, this happens to most of us when we start getting enlightened. Accept that you are moving on and accept that The New Strangers are only stuck in the groove you left behind, but you cannot change them by telling them all about your new dimensions, they cannot understand. The path of discovery is, at times, a lonely one on one front but a fulfilling one on another. Where The New Strangers are concerned respect their views by keeping your changes to yourself or those who are on the same, or similar, wavelength and exercise “loving detachment”.

Finding a balance in that is quite a challenge for me, sometimes a very painful one. I want to be accepting and respectful to them. But having to push down who I really am (and always was - I guess I just had too little self-love to give into it and let it out) is hard. Maybe it's just about letting go of the old…?! 
I seem to have answered most of this above but regarding self love what has happened to you and will continue to happen is your destiny so grab your destiny, grab your self worth, grab your self-esteem - one ton each! - and walk with your head held high. You are the fortunate one but love those less fortunate.
Much love,
Ian.

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Dear Little Dree,
I love what you wrote. It’s so honest and clear. I went through such a similar experience nine years ago when I too had an awakening. I felt that I had so completely shed a false self or skin or shell that I was suddenly walking around completely naked and exposed. So I also felt somewhat vulnerable. I had my new awakened “naked” friends but I also had my old “fully clothed” Normal World family and friends.
The shift was so extreme and obvious to me that I assumed it was equally obvious to everyone else - but apparently that’s not the case. I’ll never forget a Normal World brunch that I found myself attending at the time. Three other couples plus my wife all sitting there fully clothed and me sitting there buck naked (figuratively speaking of course). I panicked a little. I thought, “Oh God, they’re gonna know; how can they not know that absolutely Nothing is the same about me as compared to the last time they saw me?” But the fact of the matter is that they didn’t have a clue and couldn’t have been more oblivious (asleep?). In fact, I had the distinct impression that they were all “clothing me in their minds.” - kind of like the Emperor’s New Clothes. In the complete absence of a self, or a story, or a persona, or an ego, or a concept of “me”, they simply unsolicitedly made one up for me. Wow. Once I adjusted, I, next, of course, felt exactly like the Invisible Man - “Holy Crap. I’m totally here; totally naked and not a blessed person can see me. Whoah.”
So, yes, there’s absolutely a “period of adjustment” and nine years later for me, I would say that that “period” goes on indefinitely. But like riding a bicycle, you get a whole lot less wobbly with it than at the start.
I hope this helps a little. My heart goes out to you. I love that this has happened for you. It’s such a wonderful and permanent cause for celebration.
Great, Great Love to you Now and Ever and Always,
Paul
(aka Sunshine)

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This is ALL - as  it has to be !

Albeit sourced from the Gospel of Thomas but Jesus is reputed to have advised KILL your mother and father - and several enlightened Zen masters have subscribed to the same sentiment throughout history

Philip Larkin wrote about your parents “fucking you up” - my understanding being that genetically and environmentally we are totally influenced by our parentage and it is up to us as individuals to become individual in our own first person singular present tense way that trancends and by my definition must include all previous influences.

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Hi little Dree

i love what you wrote.
when this all started happening to me, i thought - no you don't have to lose friends at all - thats nonsense! but I'm having a “let go” battle with a very close friend at the moment and its going to be one of those where i have to probably let go because she doesn't understand anything i say and debates my ” being wrong” every time she's with me, to the point where i'm getting exhausted and don't want to be with her anymore unless we don't talk at all and then whats the point? i've asked her to accept me as i am but still its a wrong vs right all the time and i don't get involved in the “argument”. i'm just really not interested in fighting about what i have or have not experienced. so i can say from what everyone has written in this discussion post that im experiencing it too. i have noticed that most of my friends júst don't talk about any of it to me anyway.
am sure it gets easier
lots of love
A

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An Edgar Cayce reading went something like this: “Be humble, but do not be a door mat.”
So often it becomes necessary to let go of the good manners (tolerance) and pull the mat from under the one on an ego trip. This is not punishment but subtle teaching.
Ian.

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Dearest Wonderful Fellow Travellers,

Thank you so much for taking the time to share your stories - you have no idea (or probably you do) what it means to me.

Of course I don't wish any difficulties upon you, but the strenght, wisdom and inspiration that speaks from it tells me yes, it is a beautiful journey. And this is just a challenging part of it.

Throughout life I have followed my gut feeling and intuition 'now and then'. I'm very thankful for how strongly it has always tried to make itsself known to me. Over and over again until 'I got it'. So even when I often 'choose' to ignore, and encountered very hard situations from which I did learn, I could later remember it had been there trying to make me feel its presence. I started to really realise part of why life was so hard was that I kept 'choosing' to 'not listen to what I did know'. And so I started to finally live and make descissions more from my own core and truth.

With me, it started with food (a journey in itself). That was as I now see it a sneak preview into the 'New Stranger' experience. It made me 'the odd one out' once again. I had had that experience/feeling throughout my life, but never encountered as much personal resistence because of my being as I did this time.

Of course I was in for a much bigger rollercoaster ride than I could ever have imagined when all the other stuff (probably because I was now 'operating' from a healthier happier body) started to bubble up and sprout - in all its fullness and no longer 'surpressable'. So for about eight years I've been quiet, deciding I was the one in the wrong and had to 'adapt'. The slightest thing I would bring up was pretty disturbing to most around me. So I would crawl back into my nest, devouring books and discovering people (though not knowing them personally) 'as crazy as me' where out there. Which was comforting.

Then the universe (and I?!) decided to throw a few extra things in the mix this year, of which and whose existence I wasn't really aware a year ago - like dark entheties, lightwork, fairies etc. etc. It's making the now a very interesting, blessed, and sometimes confusing (in a positive way) experience. I still keep a lot to myself - with these things there is an appropriate time and place for everything, I'm finding. But I can no longer be the person others want me to continue to be - the person that never really existed in the first place. It seems like for every person I really let go in love and respect, an experience or an 'in the flesh' new person drops into my life with whom I actually don't have to hide half of whom I am. Presents from the universe for which I'm very thankful!

So on a lighter note,
- with a big smile -
quoting a beautiful healer in her fifties that I met this year;
'I finally got out of the closet!'

Love, light and thanks to you,
and to Zaadz, for sprouting and giving us the ability to find each other!

Dree

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Hah!  Little Dree. Right in the middle of my challenges, as I spoke of some above, I awoke one night to find a black veiled being standing At the foot of my bed - I knew it was female though I did not know how I knew this through all the veils.

I was so frightened I shouted at it Get the Hell out of here!!!!  And in a flash it was gone. Then I was sorry b/c I knew it had had something to tell me I needed to know.

That was the first of many visitors over a 10 year span, of every type & kind imaginable.

And I learned & I learned. And Ultimately I learned through Jung & through Buddhist & Hindu teaching the ways of these beings & my own role in their manifestation. Absolutely fascinating!!!!!!

I do know what you're saying.

Throughout my life I always danced to a very different drummer than most people around me, but I could always merge easily into mainstream consciousness if I wanted - you know, to pass as just one of the folks.

As time passes, I found that particular wanting happening less and less frequently.

People seem to fall away as you progress and grow. It does hurt, especially when the people you lose are people you love very much but aren't ready or able to move in the same directions.

I spent a lot of time in mourning over what I seemed to think were the “lost souls.” Then, in the midst of writing a story about a different kind of lost soul, I had an epiphany and in a flash, realized that I was putting out needless energy in that mourning.

One, those people are walking their own Paths. Two, I'd done what I could do and the rest was up to them.

In fact, I have one dear friend who's showing sparks of realization after sixteen years of willful ignorance (and I mean that in the true ignoring sense). I'm thrilled to send her links and book recommendations, but mostly to watch her start to unfold herself to the Universe. It's a beautiful thing to behold.

This above all: To thine own self be true. But know that you're not alone.

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LOVE,               DISCOVERY,                        INNER STRENGTH,                & PEACE TO ALL.

PEGGY J

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Rings many bells Om Powered. Thanks for the memories.
Much love,
Ian.

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A cosmic trigger event is occurring on the 17th of October 2006.

This is the beginning, one of many trigger events to come between now
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Earth will remain approximately within this UV beam for 17 hours of
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This beam resonates with the heart chakra, it is radiant flourescent
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universe-1 which you, Earth articulate in. However due to the nature
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The effect is every thought and emotion will be amplified intensely
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well
you have to be strong and remember something in this life there are people like you
since I was a little girl i find it difficult to talk to my family or even making friends
they don't get you at all, you can'y talk to them sometimes they think you're crazy and they're the perfect people
about me I cry every time I remember that I can't talk with my family I have only 2 friends!
I think that because somehow my life began when I was 7 years old ,not all people believe me !!
but I'm trying to live on this planet with those people who can't get it
at the same time I'm so happy to find other humans awake like you
I know I'm stranger something not wright there are a lot to know
anyway remember doesn't matter if your family love you cause we're your family