Gaia: healing through mindchange - Emotional trauma and the consequences

Re: The truth about depression

Thu, 19 Oct 2006 03:34:54 GMT

I had this posted on a healers pod, some asked who heals the healers,someone replyed that they will send healing to the healers, and there were others that had replyed but none had said what I did nor did they reply to what I did say. But these healers were not the same as I am because I had never asked to be a healer, I uncovered what I was not and that's what was left, here it is.

I have always been interested in "Why do healers die?" I don't believe they all experience death, but why do most?

I had a 60 year old friend tell me that without a doubt he knows his soul purpose here is to heal others. I told him I thought his soul purpose here was to be healed. I told him "the people that we heal are really here to heal us".. Now I don't know how many times people would ask me for advice and I would give it and then hear that small voice say, "You need to start doing that more yourself", and I would tell that person what had happened. Today when I help a person I know that they are helping me too. When they say thank you I say, "Thank you. I could not have done it without you."

I have another friend that is 20 years older than me and she is a master healer. I don't know what all she has learned, anyhow one morning I was thinking about her and picked up the phone and called her. When she answered the phone she said, "Don how did you know to call me?" I said, "I just had a thought to call you so I did." She asked me if I could send her some energy and I said, "I know I can but tell me how to do it", and she told me what to do and I did it. Whatever she got I got it first and it was a wonderful experience for both of us. The same thing happen again a year later.

I did not ask to be a healer, maybe I did but I was not aware of what it was I was asking for. I wanted to know why I had never really been happy and I started looking at myself and learned that it is harder to unlearn than to learn. I was covered up with what I was not. I am not my parents, or their parents etc. As I would let go of who I was not I was uncovering who I AM and then someone told me I was a healer. I really didn't understand why I was a healer! It was a few years before I learned that I was healing, The main reason I am a healer is to be healed. Have you ever heard, "You have to give away whatever you want for yourself?"

Re: The truth about depression

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Wed, 21 Jun 2006 14:47:10 GMT

My truth about depession is that it is being stuck in resistance to what is and expecting the world to be different. Something like saying: the world shouldn't be like that, my father, who hurt me shouldn't be like that. In other words it would be: "I hate my parents, school, the world the way it is." Same thing. And another one of the bottom lines in my depression: "if they put me in this world, at least they should take care of me." Or I will rebel. And so I did. Or tried at least.

These self-pitying beliefs are not conscious, of course, but need to be recognized in a slow process of honesty with oneself, which can only happen, when i am not judging myself. I think that's why it was so important for me to rrecognize the trauma connection. At least I don't have to blame myself for all those negative, "childish" beliefs and attitudes.

It seems that childhood traumas, usually emotional neglect and abuse through dysfunctional behaviors of parents and environment, set us up to get stuck in these self-blocking attitudes and resistance.

And as Ruskan says in his book on "Emotional Clearing": "All pain is caused by resistance."

The truth about depression

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Wed, 07 Jun 2006 19:51:50 GMT

The truth about depression and most other mental illness is that it is a reaction to emotional trauma, an understanding that is just beginning to spread in psychology circles.

Here is someone who came to the same conclusion and compiled two books out of his findings: Charles Whitfield, M.D. Try this link.

Re: Overview of emotional trauma and the consequences

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Sat, 29 Apr 2006 21:59:55 GMT

Sorry for this confusion, again.

The above is supposed to be read as one line per sentence or per term/concept.
I wrote the overview in Words and pasted it in, but the editing was lost.

I soon give up on adminestering pods, so I can keep my peace of mind.

Mikael

Overview of emotional trauma and the consequences

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Sat, 29 Apr 2006 21:54:25 GMT

Emotional Trauma and Recovery
History is a story of trauma through wars, class struggle, colonialization, playing one group against other, wife abuse, child abuse, = shaming Dysfunctional families transmit trauma over generations Emotional Trauma causes: Shame, guilt, self blaming, blaming othersDissociation of mind and spiritFearful mind creates false self, repetative negative thinking, identity with false self of the ego External orientation, blaming world for being unhappy, loss of responsibility for self, striving for power, covering up with eating, sex, money, obsessions, compulsions, addictions, Loss of spirituality, self-love, acceptance, peace of mind Dissociated self: Fearful thinking, negative expectations AnxietyStress becomes cause of all diseases Mental illness, DepressionCharacter disordersObsessionsDysfunctional Relationships Disrespect of self: unhealthy living, overeatingSubstance abuseAddictionsAIDS Disrespect of others : anger, aggressionviolencecrimeblame the world for everything Recovery lies in reconnecting to the original Self/spirit/inner child through spiritual growth Overcoming dissociation = recovering spirit Change of mind is change of lifeLetting go of fears Prayer as talking to inner self-real Self = sub/super-conscious Intuition and conscience are voice of original self Need to connect to traditional spirituality Emotional clearing, letting go Meditation, mindfulness, peace of mindUnion with the source, universal intelligence, Enlightenment The first step is the only step (Krishnamurti) The first step is to end the denial, - to recognize that I am sick and responsible for feeling bad, nobody else. And that addictions, ego trips, and a focus on the rest of the world doesn’t help.

So all I need to do is to let go of old concepts, take responsibility for how I feel, and do what makes me happy. The rest is learning by stumbling forward on a spiritual path, asking for help from others, and the willingness to do what is needed.

Re: The Seven Deadly Sins

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Tue, 25 Apr 2006 01:53:56 GMT

I think you are right, dear goddess, that all "moral" teachings have been abused and confused many times by religious organizations and others who strive for control of people rather than individual empowerment. Sex and pleasure are natural and important powers of uniting in love and appreciation and if anybody thinks that's wrong then that's his problem.

On the other hand for me it was quite a revelation to understand that "sins" can actually be destructive to myself when I am not in charge of using my powers and pleasures consciensciously. So I am considering the sinful aspect of these sins to be addictions or unconscious habits of reaction, and then they are certainly deadly to all growth in self awareness and healing of mind and spirit.

I throw them into the discussion especially because life today is so materialistic and addictive, that I need to question myself often if I am in control of my mind and emotions or if my desires and emotions are controlling me.

Yogananda explains hiw views this way:
"Lust applies to the abuse of any or all the senses in the pursuit of pleasure or gratification. Through ther sense of sight man may lust after material objects; through the sense of hearing, he craves the sweet, slow poison of flattery, and vibratory sounds as of voices and music that rouse his material nature; through the lustful pleasure of smell he is enticed toward wrong environments and actions; lust for food and drink causes him to please his taste at the expense of health; through the sense of touch he lusts after inordinate physical comfort and abuses the creative sex impulse. Lust also seeks gratification in wealth, status, powewr, domination - all that satisfies the "I, me, mine," in the egotistical man. ... lust loves to destroy one's happiness, health, brain power, clarity of thought, memory, and discriminative judgment." Chap.1, Verse 9.

Re: The Seven Deadly Sins

http://rocknrollgoddess.gaia.com — Fri, 21 Apr 2006 02:58:38 GMT

hi, i am new here, so i thought i would just jump in on the hard stuff and sink or swim. I agree with most of what is said in that piece, but, i always wonder why they include Lust in that list...the others do seem negative,and some aspects of lust, like blood lust or lust for possessions or power are negative, but physical lust can sometimes lead to love, and intimacy and a whole range of deeply felt emotions...i guess maybe there should be a distinction between what i consider the good kind of lust and the bad kind of lust.

there is also a deep division line in the pleasure of the body as being negative, and those who feel strongly its a huge gift that should be felt an appreicated instead of controlled..

as for sins....or as i like to call them challenges---they do tend to hurt us--but they also make us grow when we evaluate our actions, understand where we could have done better and seek forgiveness from others and ultimately ourselves.

just my two cents :)

ali

The Seven Deadly Sins

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Mon, 17 Apr 2006 19:01:09 GMT

Sins are not forbidden because they hurt others,
they are harmful because they hurt ourselves.

The seven deadly sins are deadly to spiritual awakening, to finding the kingdom of God inside, because the are expressions of the ignorance that nagative feelings defend us against others when they really only harm our own well being.

They are:

pride, greed, lust, anger, gluttony, envy, sloth.

In his commentary on the Bhagavad Gita Paramahansa Yogananda sif faults of the materially identified ego which need to be conquered to acquire knowledge of his true soul nature.

Lust, anger, greed, delusion, pride, envy or material attachment.

He explains: "In sum, the principal evil that comes along with ego consciousness and its six faults is the increasing compulsion to forget one's Self - the soul - and its expression, manifestation, and requirements; and to become stubbornly inclined to engage oneself in pursuing the insatiable "necessities" of the ego."

"The Bhagavad Gita, Royal Science of God-Realization," by Paramahansa Yogananda

Trauma shames

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Mon, 17 Apr 2006 18:41:10 GMT

The drivenness in any addicitons is about the ruptured self, ther belief that one is flawed as a person. The content of the addiciton, whether it be an ingestive addiction or any activity addiction (like work, buying or gambling) is an attempt at an intimate realtionship. The workaholic with his work, or the alcoholic with his booze, are having a love affair. Each one mood alters to avoid the feeling of loneliness and hurt in the underbelly of shame.

...addicts can't love themselves. They are an object of scorn to themselves. This deep internalized shame gives rise to distorted thinking. The distorted thinking can be reduced to the belief that I'll be okay if I drink, eat, have sex, get more money, work harder, etc. The shame turns one into ... a "human doing" rather than a "Human being."

Trauma shames

http://MiKaEl.gaia.com — Wed, 05 Apr 2006 03:28:40 GMT

"many victims of trauma come to believe that their self is not worthy, because if it was the trauma would not have occured. They become deeply ashamed of whatever imagined fault has caused the trauma to have befallen them and stolen from them a sense of mastery." Sandra Bloom, Creating Sanctuary, pg. 71