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I do actually mean you are welcome.

My name is Andrew and I am terminally misunderstood.

I inherited it from my mother.

In any conversation if I stick my bib in you can be sure that someone is going to take what I've said, the wrong way.

It has never ceased to amaze me how some people can say the most outrageous things and everybody just laughs as if, well HE wouldn't mean any offense would  he (?)  yet I say something totally in innocence and get jumped on for being insensitive or offensive or out of touch.

Sound familiar?

This isn't intended as a “bitch” session.

What I would like to ask is if you have found certain things rub people up the wrong way and you've found ways around that issue, would you share those ideas with the rest of us.

For instance it took me years to recognise that it was far more effective to take a humble approach to people, to get advice that to approach them as an equal.  If I approached someone as if I didn't know anything, they were far more likely to share their experience than if I said 'I know this and I know that but I know very little about your particular subject'.  There seemed no quicker way to shut down a conversation.

Please tell us about yourself and feel free to share your experience………

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Hallo all, you may call me Centri, and I, too, am chronically misinterpreted.  Funnily enough, my mother does, indeed, suffer from this condition as well.

More to the point, it is rather difficult at times to adequately express the full content, logic, or warrants behind thoughts that wish to convey, and at these times, I generally get a blank stare followed by a scowl and something along the lines of, “You're just trying to confuse me to make yourself look SO smart.”

Rest assured–if you feel the urge to respond in such a way to anything I might post–there is no self-serving arrogance involved in what I say, simply an attempt to share an idea… which often goes awry.

If you should feel offended by anything I post, please address me and I will attempt to explain myself better.

In all her random wording,
Centri

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Howde doo dee,
or just howdy doo to all you passionate misunderstood Gaian's.

I think that we all are misunderstood at one time or another, and that's just the way it's suppose to be, or it would be otherwise.

I've had a few 'instances' of terminal misunderstanding with a few folks around here but things aways seems to work out for the best, sooner or later.

How does that work for you Andrew?

glad you came back,
~lars

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I knew someone would rain on my parade and throw in some logic. 

I think you are right, It helps keep some of us humble.

Great emoticon!!!

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Here is a question that anyone may misunderstand… but my heart asks anyway.

Why did you write me off line Andrew & yet since you have been back you haven't responded to my emails……?

Just wondering….. I have been a great supporter of you & still am……

So whatzzz-up?

And here is a little page from Eli, whom I so appreciate…. 

I wish you the most fun & love & joy here on gaia Andrew….. all of my words to you come from my heart…..

hugs
pj

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Sorry PJ,  I fell asleep at the computer while typing a reply and when I woke up and saw the message had gone, thought I'd sent it.  I must have deleted it in my sleep…

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Hello, my name's Persephone.  I've been misunderstood. 

I think the misunderstood thing is a universal trait.  Everyone has been misunderstood no matter how 'clear' they think they're being in relating a thought to another.

We are all human beings with our own histories and experiences that 'color' how we listen and how we take in information from outside sources.

I also think the ego also plays into things here in regards to miscommunication.  When someone says something that is so simple, so clear , so obvious and beautiful yet had been overlooked by normally rational human beings, their ego can get affected and one gets defensive.  Like, why didn't THEY think of that?  It's so simple and neat.

Anyways, this idea of the pod gave me a humorous moment so I decided what the hey and join.

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Excellent, glad we could put a smile on your dial…You make a good point.  It's important to not become puffed up or let your ego take over when responding to being misunderstood.

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Persephone:  I so much agree!! Hawkins writes about it (I think I've cited him)… Our subjective way of perceiving things.

And then again.. we know that everybody has it.. perceiving things the way it fits into THEIR - MY story. So - why feeling offended by it?… The Ego feels hurt, but by practicing unconditional compassion things can change for us! (Sure, easy is it not).



Upps, I haven't introduced myself (“Must be one of these.. who don't care… chat chat chat”… - just kidding). My name is Silke. Of Course, I have been misunderstood - and not too far away, right here in Gaia.

What do I do about it: 1. what I mentioned above… understanding that whoever misunderstood has his/her own story.
But also 2. I do revise myself of what I might have been doing do cause that situation. Result: one time I could have been more delicate. The other was completely out of my control.

My consciousness: calm now.

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Hi

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It's great to have you Denim.

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Hey there I'm joe and as I've gone around this site I keep seeing Andrew's name pop up… very interesting character. So I visited his site and clicked on something interesting and it brought me here. I like the concept and might have a few things to say here and there (as I usually do) see all of you around.

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Feel free Joe

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Hello I'm Jorge I'm misunderstood sometimes, but nothing that I can't live with lol. I think that intentions tells the best story even after the words have failed. I like the idea of discomfort or disonance I think it promotes growth keeping grudges are just not my stile. I don't take things personally. Anyway I look forward to hanging out in here see you all.

Namste
Jorge

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Welcome Jorge.

Feel free to post or comment.

Peace

Andrew