Sending healing and light --for a crossing over

aki's post on the healing thread reminds me of a time when we were sending healing that a lady had asked, for her grandmother, on a distant healing group; and she transitioned.  One of the healers in my group was shocked, and felt that he had failed. It sent him into a time of silence for a while. He was a “born healer”; i.e. not one who has received attunement from another person; and therefore, it  had not been discussed with him–how death is approached.

I don't think any of us is prepared till it happens. Whether or not we think that “timely” death is a wonderful transition; there are so many emotions related to dying; that it is difficult to stay calm and centered when we have been called in as healers.

How do you as healers and lightworkers handle this?

Re: Sending healing and light --for a crossing over

Twice in the past several years I have had experience with crossing-overs.

The fist was with my husband's grandma, she suffered a heart attack and stroke and though basically, any real function was lost then, it was another week or so until she actually passed.

The whole family gathered around, hubby and I, as well as my friend and soon to be step-mom-in-training who practices Reiki, and my father in law, who is also a very sensitive and gifted soul. My Reiki friend is also a nurse. We all worked to keep Grandma as comfortable as possible. The evening of her death hubby, FIL, and I worked and worked to bring her peace and let her know that everything would be alright here, and that we would take care of each other and Grandpa (Grandma was a chronic worrier). She passed several hours later. It was so difficult knowing that she was leaving and there was nothing I could do to “save” her.

The second was with my step-dad who passed about a year and a half ago. When we went to see him in ER, I tried to send him energy, and his vitals immediately increased, but it was clear that his suffering was immediately increasing as well. The doctors said his brain was totally dead, he was on a ventalator to make his body breathe, but I could feel him very clearly - far away yet very near. He held on for a little over 24 hours until my brother was able to get here from out of state. I was touching him when he passed, I felt his Spirit leave his body, and move through the hand I had placed on his shoulder.

I've felt “spirits” before, but never has the spirit of someone I've known so well moved through me. I was touched to have been able to touch him like that, but it was very difficult. Especially knowing that I had that experience, when I felt that perhaps it should have been my mother, or one of his biological children.

I've been honored to share these crossing overs, but they were each extremely difficult in thier own way. I imagine that this is not necessarily something that “gets better with time”, but perhaps I am wrong… Only time will tell.

Blessings to you Meenakshi and Aki for starting a thread for sharing on this sometimes difficult topic.

*hugs*
Mercale

Re: Sending healing and light --for a crossing over

Mercale, you reminded me of one of the most difficult sessions I had to do. I did not think I was ready; but in looking back, I see how the “healer' is part of the harmonizing and each experience is part of our own path. That's probably the difference between a “doctor” and a lightworker..

I was given so many messages about what was to happen months before the premature baby was born; but it was a very close relative, and I kept “forgetting” or misreading the messages. When he was born –and everything about it was surreal–I was sending healing with [ego ] intent for the premature baby to recover. He was at a very advanced health facility, and it could've been possible. But while I was doing Kwan Yin's magnified healing –and in one of those miraculous ways, invisible to all though right in front of the nurses and others – a message went through me, from the back of my head to him: “go in peace”.

I have never been so shaken in my life. I felt that at one level, my stubborn-ness at not allowing, was gently pushed aside by making me hear the message that was more for me than for the amazing soul who came and went within 2 days of life, transforming the life of all he touched.

There was so much I learned and experienced about healing from that experience.  It was a turning point in my life. A crossing over for a soul; which meant a transition for not one, not two but many individuals.

It is rare to see such a clear sign of healing into wholeness.

Re: Sending healing and light --for a crossing over

Meenakshi,

Sometimes embracing Peace, and the counsels of spirit requires a lot of bravery. Letting go of outcomes is scary, especially when someone's life hangs in the balance, and you're *sure* you could help.  I salute you for your bravery, your wisdom, and your compassion both for your self and for those around you.

You mentioned in your first post “it  had not been discussed with [the healer]-how death is approached.” I don't think any discussion is really adequate to prepare us. The situation is so charged, the grief of the family so palpable, it often seems like healing for the victim is “right there” just beyond our grasp, if only we reached just a little farther.

It does feel like failure sometimes, even when we *know* that we did the right thing by simply helping them pass. I questioned for a long time if I hadn't been wrong to stop trying to heal my stepfather. Maybe I just mis-read things? Maybe I was playing tricks on myself and I had just been afriad to heal him and fail? I struggled with these subconscious feelings of guilt for a long time - wondered what my family would have said if they knew that I had started to “work” on him, and then stopped… 

Crossing-overs are hard at any point, and harder still when they happen with someone we know well.

That said, I think that it's important that while we are doing the Work, it is not our expectations or ego that we are serving, but that we are opening to allowing Light to shine in the most healthful, appropriate way possible.

I pray that I will always have the wisdom and the strength to do Spirit's work the best that I can, no matter how difficult the situation.

Love, Light, and big group hugs,
Mercale

Re: Sending healing and light --for a crossing over

Mercale said:”That said, I think that it's important that while we are doing the Work, it is not our expectations or ego that we are serving, but that we are opening to allowing Light to shine in the most healthful, appropriate way possible.”

Very true!  What shook me about the healer mentioned; is that not only did he take it personally, but was also angry with the requester for not letting him know! It took me a long time to help him to see that the family was too overcome to get back to us. I know that after his break, he came back refreshed. It IS important for us to see that healers are not separate from teh healing cycle; very much a part of it.