Chasing goals

Dear lightworkers!
Through focusing on enveloping everyone you encounter with light, you raise the vibration of the planet one person at a time. I've had a chance to do some inner work this past weekend and I wanted to explain a little and talk about how we all chase goals.

Do you find yourself telling yourself you'll be happy when (insert condition) Do you tell yourself you'll “be somebody” when some condition is met? Perhaps not, but perhaps many of the people you meet think this way. In everyday conversations, we can learn to ask the questions to get people to see the light!

If you imagine a bone and write the word “goals” on it, then tie happiness, self worth, and self image onto the bone, that's a mental picture of the way many people live their lives; constantly chasing goals, thinking that happiness is attached to obtaining the goal. Micheal Neill, author of Be Happy Now explained this image and I drew it up.

Ask your friends if they could imagine being happy without winning that proposal, without getting that promotion, without marrying that boyfriend…Spreading loving kindness to all we meet helps people to see that they are love-able and worthy just as they are. When people are violent and unkind to others, that's an indicator that they don't feel well within themselves. Words of encouragement can do wonders to turn on the light within the people we meet.

How do you feel about self-worth and happiness as they relate to attaining your goals?

Re: Chasing goals

That image is very telling, Jessica. When I think of your question, there's two levels of responses I immediately get aware of

The one I think is what I would like to give :
My happiness is in my hands. I don't need anything outside me to make me  happy.

And the one I actually experience:
I'm happy when my family is happy and relaxed, and when I am free to spend my time as I'd like to, without any outside interference.

So- where do we go from here, according to Michael Neill?

I hesitated answering here also, because I am not aware of any goals that I have. If pressed, I sometimes think [but don't say] - My goals are not of this world.

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Meenakshi:

That's what I experience, too. My “virtual” or “premeditated” answer, vs. my “actual” real-life example answer. Yes, there are some conditions to be met in my life for me to actually feel happiness. If my family is stressed, then I too am stressed.

I haven't studied extensively with Mr. Neill, so I don't have an answer for your question. 

And sometimes I feel my goals are not of this world, as well.

But sometimes all I want is to live in an Earthship, and not the suburbs! hehe. lol.

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Well, if you're in an Earthship you can go wherever you;d like. :0  I was just thinking the other day that earth hurtles through space; and yet we are gently kept in this cocoon that thinks we move only when we're walking or driving or flying or swimming!

Do you think that your first answer is “me” or the second or third..or whatever comes up?

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http://www.econsciousmarket.com/eco-times/the-mother-earth-ship-has-landed/

Look at this gorgeous earthship and see the movie at the bottom of the page. I want to live in a community of these kinds of houses, where everybody cares what goes to the landfill or doesn't, where everybody cares that their houses are sustainable and off the grid. This image shows the structure by itself in the middle of nowhere, but I want to actually have neighbors in similar structures.

Did you mean “so where do we go from here” in regards to the suggestion of “me”? Yes, I have to look within myself to find the root of my unhappiness or anxiety and then take some action to change it. I must become the meaning maker in my own life and be conscious when I'm tie-ing meanings onto events.

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Did you mean “so where do we go from here” in regards to the suggestion of “me”?

No actually I meant, that we sometimes think that our first reaction is “me” or our second or our third. But actually theyre all different facets of me. And all may be equally “valid”. Like you said, we've to look within ourselves and when we do, I feel we can see outside even better. Like seeing the stars in the daytime from a deep well.

Are you a member of Deep Ecology: Reclaiming our Sanity in a Crazy World?   bensoph was discussing his ideas of an ecovillage.