Don't know how to present the question...

Well, as of recently I've started a serious relationship with someone who lives in different country from my own, but that's not what has me questioning myself. It's that it seems that I don't exactly know what to do in this relationship. I feel I've tried to be one way, tried to think of others so much more then myself that I've neglected growing in certain ways. IS it natural to feel uneasy about almost every action in these sort of relationships? I'm almost afraid of doing or saying things when I talk to her.

Re: Don't know how to present the question...

It must be difficult if you are separated and in different countries, we humans pick up so many clues from body language. Can you explain what you feel uneasy about and give some examples?

Re: Don't know how to present the question...

It was harder for her than for me. I'm able to handle it more, it seems. But, unfortunately, it couldn't work for us.

Re: Don't know how to present the question...

Everyone always says how hard relationships are, but I think when you're with the right person - it's not that hard. There will moments of disagreement, but not arguing.  There will be times when you need to slip away for a few days to replenish yourself, but you're not escaping.  There will be moments of silence, but never with flared tempers. 

I've been married for 21 years to a mild mannered, sincere, compassionate man.  And we are as different as two people could possibly be - though I am also sincere and compassionate :)  but from music to colors  - we are different.  But we've always given each other room to grow. 

And though we don't agree on many things, we've always kept respect in our relationship.  Without it - there would be no relationship.

Good luck!
Debbie