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Re: Let's start at the beginning ...

Bear said Nov 14, 2006, 12:19 AM:

Re: Let’s start at the beginning …
Kira said Yesterday, 5:09 AM:

Which of the Four Agreements was the one that called to you most when you were introduced to it?
“Be impeccable with your word.”

How has your understanding of that Agreement evolved?

It first I thought it meant to tell the Truth, The more I studied it found The Truth could be rather elusive. It appeared to be more important to speak love to yourself and others. To understand that your word has the power to create or destroy, and to be aware, use it lovingly. It also became a way I looked at my self-talk/ inner dialog, wow was my mind going on without direction, and so cleaning up my mind has been a big part of my training.

How did it affect your life, could you see specific ways in which that Agreement changed you and the way you interact with the world?

My whole life has been and is still affected by this agreement. I like myself, even love myself because of this agreement. Loving others is easier when you love yourself. When you harbor no gossip no resentment your mind becomes more peaceful, your word gains power and you can see it creating in your world. Intent becomes clearer, silence a joy. I have learned to manifest, because my word has truth that creates. This one agreement can keep me busy. When relating with others it reminds me to choose my words carefully, I get better at this agreement all the time. When talking about my health or my life I’m careful to place things in the positive, that is: I am better and better everyday, I use a gratitude list to keep positive loving or silent. This agreement placed me as the hunter in my mind. I see others or my stories, and they are just that, stories. With practice this agreement places me closer to direct experience with life. Life is, love is, I am, and that’s my story, I am sticking to it for now!
Also as a result of this agreement life has taken on more meaning. We create our world collectively and individually with the power of our word, that’s powerful.

Is it something you consciously work with? Regularly or sporadically?
Yes I work with this all the time. I check in to what my thoughts are doing several times a day. When driving I like to run though things I am grateful for. I also play focus games like, listening to hear the silence under all sound. I ‘m careful about what I say about others, very little. I find that I have very little to say most of the time, unless I am teaching.

As you learned to assimilate the Agreement into your life, which of the other Agreements then called your attention?

” Don’t make assumptions ” As I watched my mind I realized that so much of what went on in there was a story or lie I was telling to make myself feel safe or in control. Lies, lies, and more lies. I really thought I knew it all had a 6th since into who you were too! Wow! Then I also had a story about how you knew what I wanted or needed and were just not giving me what I wanted. I was a mess. Then after cleaning up some of that junk there was room to look at other assumptions, like when are you sleeping and when are you dreaming. Is the world solid or liquid? I have seen things appear in front of my eyes out of what appeared to be nothing. What is love?

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Re: Let's start at the beginning ...

GypsyLadee said Nov 14, 2006, 3:16 PM:

Bear …

I feel lot of synchronicity in what you're saying! Where you talk about how this agreement helps you with the Inner Diaglogue, really resonates with me, as I've seen my life change by appying 'loving self-talk' to the Judge and its influence in my life. When my head starts running in circles (the inner dialogue, or ID), I will employ a trick lent to me by a friend … play the observer of the ID … just watch. And when the ID ceases (and it always does), I replace it with something loving and self-nurturing.

Gossip … what a great example of how to apply this Agreement! How often do we think we're just being “concerned” when we talk to other people about someone. When we're impeccable with our word and we stop to listen to what we're saying about someone, generally … usually, we stop talking. I know it sounds really trite, but it always brings to mind the line by Thumper in Bambi … “If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nuthin' at all.” Better that we keep our big traps shut, and more importantly, uncover the reason we feel the need to gossip in the first place.

It's been my experience that what most disturbs us about someone else is an opportunity to use the reflection to see what disturbs us about ourselves. It's almost the reverse of the agreement, “Take nothing personally.” For me, every encounter, every experience contributes to my developing awareness of me, so that everything in my world is about me.

Gratitude … indeed. It's far too easy to look at the things that frustrate or disturb us, and put the em-pha-sis on the wrong syl-la-ble. The rude clerk at the store, the not-so customer service rep … all those outside influences that challenge us in day-to-day life. I find that if I come from a place of gratitude, I can more easily move through these moments with grace and contentedness. Now, when I encounter the rude clerk, I work at finding a way to cheering her up or just offering a moment of less stress for her. It works for her and for me, and comes from a place of gratitude.

What is love? This is as good as the question “Who are you?” Stripped of all descriptive nouns (sister, mother, lover, boss, home-owner) and “do-ings” …….. Who are you? LOL .. do not assume you know. It is only when we reach that place of, “hellifiknow,” that we can begin to start to embark on the journey of self-awareness.

Warmly,
Ladee

Re: Let's start at the beginning ...

Bear said Nov 16, 2006, 2:22 AM:

Thanks ladee,

Love your comments, when we clean up our minds when we ask the question that have no answers, like; who are you? What is life? What is love?
We go beyond what is known to experience we face life as a warrior.

I want to share a story about one of my students because I think it’s a great story and it shows how our inner world affects our mirror.

In class she said that she felt she was spilt by her beliefs half of her still believed the old stories while half was becoming aware of another way to be in the world. She wasn’t sure what was true for her.
So I reflected back to her; I asked her what her experience had been and if she had seen changes in her mirror. She Stated that yes she had, but was still unsure I told her that this was a battle of the ego fighting to stay in power, and that if she would focus on the truth of her experiences she could fly over the gap.
She called the next day in a panic, she had run into someone who had talked her into a corner she felt that the old belief must be right, but even the thought that it might be true zapped all her energy.

I calmed her down then pointed out that her mirror was in fact simply reflecting her own dilemma off being unsure and having a 50/50 pull going on. She was able to see it, then I directed her to her body and asked her to use her bodies energy as a guide. She noted that as she spoke about the old belief she lost energy, but when speaking of the new belief she gained energy with that as her guide she was free to make her choices.

I wanted to share, any comments, please.

Blessings Bear

Re: Let's start at the beginning ...

GypsyLadee said Nov 17, 2006, 5:08 PM:

when we clean up our minds when we ask the question that have no answers, …We go beyond what is known to experience we face life as a warrior.

Indeed. Getting past the “I (think I) know everything” stage is rarely comfortable, too. Most of us resist that level of unknown. And learning to surrender to the Unknown takes a warriror's strength, with an arsenal at her side. It does, however, lead us to gnosis (silent knowing) and the Nagual (the Unknowable). To get to the other side we must be willing to challenge all that we think we know.

I've approached more about mirroring in another thread to expand on this, and am about to open another with what is becoming known as Don Miguel Ruiz's ”Fifth Agreement” to discuss moving past what we Believe.

I hope you'll join me there, too.