Re: The Mastery of Love

Journeys [no longer around] said Dec 18, 2006, 10:51 AM:
 

Hi Kira,

Loved reading The Mastery of Love! Please keep us updated on your thoughts as you read through the book. :)

“…and do you think accepting people as they are is 100% achievable in the real world, or more of a guiding principle that couples work toward and work with?”


My first thoughts on this question are what aspects of yourself do you see in others and what do you attract to yourself? My wife and I were initially attracted to each other through what we believed we had in common and  what we believed to be similar paths. The longer we are together - the more we are discoverying who we are as individuals with difference perspectives. It seems that we put our best foot forward at the beginning of our relationship and maybe “stretched it a bit” with believing that we had as much as we thought we had in common with each other.

I'm slooowly learning that it makes more sense to see what bothers me in others as aspects of myself that I haven't come to terms with yet within myself. In this way I can accept other people, including my partner, from a compassionate place. I try not to take anything personal, as don Miguel says, because I see my wife and others as teachers for me from which to learn more about myself. My wife and I have shared this concept with each other and try to incorporate it into our relationship. We've got a ways to go but this agreement between the two of us is something that we can work with.

Peace and love,

Dave