Intimacy is like a glue

A glue that binds two.

If allot is used, it begins to hinder and not hindge a relationship.

Just like sex, if one engages into systematic abuse of the same, it will eventually loose its purpose and a seek of a 'new; different' kind develops…

I guess that's why even in India today, people have divorces; i heard once that Lions engage in sexual union once a year…. that is Intimacy.

PS. no intention to intefear in your sex life… just my silly thought.:-)

Re: Intimacy is like a glue

But you bring up an incredibly good point.  I think that sexual intimacy is also something quite sacred, and when it is treated as less than that, it is no longer intimate.

When we laugh from a place of joy, there is something sacred in the communion of that shared laughter.  When we make love from a place of open honesty, there is something sacred in the communion shared then.  It becomes an effortless inclusion of our relationship to the divine.

I think that when we seek laughter to hide pain, it is no longer an honor.  When we use laughter to hurt others, it is no longer communion.  When we use sex to feel validated or as a stop measure to avoid healing our own wounded selves, we abuse something beautiful.

I'm not sure there is such a thing as too much intimacy.  Intimacy doesn't translate into sex.  There are a plethora of folks that engage in a lot of sex and still can't find that intimacy.  It is about sharing and being unguarded in that place of sharing.  And I'm not sure there is such a thing as being too connected to the source and honoring each connection from that place.

Sex and love addiction are harder to spot than drug addiction, but I would warrant that they are as destructive to who we are.  Truthful love and intimacy is as effortless as breathing, but also requires the work necessary to be capable of standing naked in front of God and in the presence of your partner - in all ways.