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I know this is an old thread….but at this particular point in my journey it has some relavence.
My life has been completely run by my ego up until about 2 years ago. At that point ,my life as I knew it, shattered and I realized I was in control of very little that went on around me. I can only control (or work on controlling) my thoughts, words and actions. I've lost nearly every posession, I lost my job, I lost all my money (which wasn't much but it was all I had..). . and I lost my marriage. I was forced to do some serious self-examination and what I found was that my egoic desires had led me astray. As I've started to listen to that guiding, tiny, quiet voice inside, I have found that my life has improved 100%. My stress is less, I sleep better and I have actually been reaquainted with “me”. I had lost myself in a marriage where all I focused on was “we.” I have learned, not to forget about myself…that I need to nuture me as well as anyone else I'm involved with, but not to the point of losing perspective of either facet.
The letting go of old habits and beliefs is hard….very hard….especially when I've had 40 years to practice these “undesirable” habits!! But, once I understood that my frustration with myself stemmed from my “out-of-control” ego habits, everything has become easier to deal with. I now practice letting go of my need to “try” and control situations and just focus on my areas of control….my thoughts and actions. This has been so much more fullfilling than any previous attempt of mine to control my life.
So, after all this rambling….my point is that letting go…of desires, expectations, control of others, and my ego (still a work-in-progress!!) is my new focus…and it allows me, to once again, be happy with ME !
peace always……
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