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First Agreement: Be impeccable with your word.
Words are the most powerful force we have. All things begin there. Our thoughts create the filter that we experience the world through. Our words create, whether we are aware of that or not. Whether we choose to be responsible to our words or not. They create.
Impeccable comes from a Latin root and means to be without sin. When I think of sin, I believe it is a state in which love is not present. And I do believe that our thoughts and words are held in love or in fear.
So, I want to talk about the words we use with ourselves. As hateful as some people can be in their choice of words and actions, the words we tend to turn on ourselves and define ourselves with can be more poisonous than anything outside of us. I know that is true for me.
I began reading this book again because I knew I had stepped away from the concepts of the four agreements. I knew that my words were no longer impeccable. They were tearing me apart and creating a greater doubt and hurt inside me and I needed to hold myself accountable to the words I choose to use. To open and allow my heart to speak with love to the precious being that is me.
This has always been a returning point for me. I can pick myself to death with very little effort. And yet…. That will always create a distance from me to the source. That will always affect my ability to feel love for myself or feel the love that comes from others.
I have a much easier time seeing the divinity in others than in myself. It took me a lifetime to see it in me, and yet…. I discovered that when I looked in the mirror, I no longer could see the divine source of love reflecting back. I’d shut myself off from that.
And it isn’t about needing to understand why I’m doing it. I have been there and done that and the bottom line is that I just need to quit doing it. I remember about 17 years ago I was trying to quit saying the word “hate”. I hated this. I hated that. I hated. Once I became conscious of it, I still couldn’t quite quit it. It slipped out because it was a very practiced use of language for me. So, I began stuffing a sock in my mouth every time I said it. At first, I said it and then stuck sock in mouth. Pretty soon it was almost even. And when I no longer said it as an immediate statement, the sock was retired.
It required accountability, truth telling, integrity and a willingness to do what it would take to change my behavior and create a life that felt good to have.
I’m so glad I picked this book up again. This one thread runs through every second of my life. How I choose to speak to myself and about myself determines the life I will unfold ahead of me. Here and today, I am choosing to be impeccable in my choice of words. I am choosing to honor my life with loving words. I am choosing freedom from the chains of self-loathing.
I am beautiful.
I am precious.
I am so very loved.
I remember who I am.
And today… when I look in the mirror. I see the face of Love.
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