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A fellow massage therapist and friend of mine, Angela, called me back in August and was very mean to me; she thought I turned her in to the state board of massage therapy for something.
During this conversation which consisted mostly of her blasting me, I managed to slide in, “I don't know what you are talking about…I didn't do anything to you.”
She basically told me she didn't want to have anything to do with me anymore and I was to never call her or try to visit her. Then she hung up on me.
I was devastated. All I knew to do was contact the state board to see what on earth she was talking about. I wanted to make sure no one filed a false report under my name. Turns out the report was filed anonymously. Meaning, I couldn't prove it wasn't me.
Angela called me Yesterday to tell me she wanted to apologize to me. I said, “So you finally found out who did it?”, and she said, “No. I started going back to church, and I just wanted to tell you that I forgive you for what you did to me, and I am sorry for being so mean to you.”
I replied, “I appreciate your apology, but you need to forgive someone else. I didn't do it.”
I have to admit that at the end of the conversation, I was quite irritated at her. I realized as she kept talking about her new relationship with “the Lord”, that she was only apologizing to me and “forgiving me” because she wanted God to do something for her and she thought our problem was what was holding back her miracle.
After the “mini sermon”, I hung up, looked at my best friend, and said, “You know, a few months ago, my heart would have been in my throat and I would have been so grateful she was apologizing and wanting to be friends again. Now I am just ticked that she made me miss lunch.”
What is true forgiveness? What is a true apology? I genuinely hope our conversation eased her heart, but it didn't do anything for me but make me shake my head and go “huh?”
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