Re: Dropping the Illusions

we've all been in the situation where we have people that dissapoint us and then it does come a time to exit from the relationship to regroup and even reevaluate weither or not the relationship benifits us to maintain. for me i have to determine is it the behavior that the others are doing that ticks me off or is it me not willing to accept them for who they want to be.

usually it's me not wanting to accept them for who they are because their mannerisms and way of thinking doesn't go along with how i want to pattern my behavior. so is it “wrong” to disassociate from them? where is it written that i have to be friends with everyone? true they say that what offends us in others often is a reflection of what we don't like about ourselves but thats not always the case. some folks just piss me off and irratate me so it's best not to be around them.

we're all trying to find our way so why not make it as peaceful as we can and at times accept a challenge or two to see how we're doing and then make ajustments as we see we're able to. but still that doesn't mean we have become “friends” and spend our quality time with them. for me i accept who they are and if i don't feel at peace with them i restrict my exposure to them… just a few thoughts … seeya gary