Do you beleive at Love at first sight ?

  I use to until I learned that it is not true for me that is : ) I use to fall in LOVE as soon as I locked eye's with a guy that I had a connection with  then we would become lovers then next he was my boyfriend then I got to know him and was like he's not my soul-mate I thought I knew him then the break-up. So I have learned that Love at first sight is a fairy tale and in real life,  Love is somethings that develop over time for me that is-

                                            What about you ?  

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The first time I saw my husband I was fourteen. Our paths crossed each morning on my way to school, I felt absolutely in love with him.

Our paths continued to cross until I was twenty and we were officially introduced. For six years I loved him without having any kind of communication with him except for the nod or smile. We are very passionate about the same things and he has calmed my impatience.

We eloped on christmas eve 2000 and now have the most beautiful crystal child.

I can never imagine a life without Brett, even being away from him for short periods of time is hard.

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I think I believed it too at first, when I was younger. But later came to understand it was LUST at first sight. Which is cool too when talking about chemistry. Definately a much needed part of a relationship. Personally for me I learned that not every person I had chemistry with was someone I wanted a relationship with either. So for me at least getting to know a person was much more important first to determine if love was a long term goal I wanted to pursue with this person. I wouldnt trade the learning experience of it all for anything though, I remember the excitement of feeling like it was love at first sight and that was a marvelous thing. I think we all have our own unique way of learning it and whats right for us. It certainly isnt out of the realm of possibilities…

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i do agree that love at first sight is lust at first sight… i guess a lot fall for the LOVE at FIRST SIGHT.  

but still somehow some amazing stories of people falling in love at first sight keeps my jaws wide open and still they live on forever together.

on the other hand, i guess it's all up to the person.

peace~

Yedessa

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Love at first sight? No such thing. There is attraction at first sight, which I've had many times and which can leed to love. There are also crushes at first sight. But Love is like a seed (go ZAADZ!) it needs some time to grow :)

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I don't know if it is so much love at first sight.. but I can say that within one date of my now husband.. i knew he was the one.. we had our wedding song picked out by one month and got married at year 6….we are now 2 1/2 years into marriage and still going strong.. 

i think the chemistry has to be there.. i had never had the same feeling with other boyfriends as i did with my husband.. not even close.. but I am not one to dole out love like a handshake.. it's a sacred and important thing to me.  

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I beleive in lust at first sight, and love based on intimacy and knowledge of one another.

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First it better to believe the existence of love(true).As for me ,specially these days people get to know each other simply for temporary reason(only for short term objectives,to satisfied their emotional thirsty).It is pretty common to see most relations(between opposite sex)lasted at best-in few months and at worst a weeks.So I am not sure whether there is love or people simply convinced them selves to call and perceive their emotional desires-sex and the likes ,as Love.

This is my personal view,it is not a wild opinion rather it is based on experience(both personal and others)

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First it is better to believe the existence of love(true),to comment on it.As for me it is quite difficult to say some thing confidently about it.The reality is revealed for every one to see on the ground,and it is better to go beyond the theory ,for this matter specially these days people get to know each other simply for temporary reason(only for short term objectives,to satisfied their emotional thirsty).

These days it is pretty common to see most relations(between opposite sex)lasted at best-in few months and at worst a week.So I am not sure whether there is love or people simply convinced them selves to call and perceive their emotional desires-sex and the likes ,as Love.

This is my personal view,it is not a wild opinion rather it is based on experience(both personal and others)

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Greetings and blessings to everyone.

This spirit is going to take the leap and say yes, it does happen, and not only does it happen, but nearly everyone of us has experienced it, and forgotten. To dive even deeper, this spirit suggests that the near instantaeous “connection” with others that can be experienced is meant to be a normal state of existence.

What? When? Why way back (for this spirit) when we just got some semblance of using our senses, nearly everyone bonded with MOM. Then, we grew up, had various experiences, generally forgot about the whole thing, until, upon rare occasion we stumble upon it again.

Why is this not more common? We accumulated experience and BAGGAGE, had injuries of various types inflicted upon us, developed egos (ugh), nutured negative emotions like fear, jealousy, and attachment. This spirit has more and more moments where even for only an instant, it establishes a connection with others, beyond animality, beyond physicality, reaching the sublime and bypassing all those bothersome steps betwixt. Then, the baggage comes crashing down.

Can it last? Definitely! This spirit continues to experience such relationships even today. And it happened just as mentioned above. Only the connections transcended ego, tossed all baggage including physical seperation aside, and continue to instensify. From a simple conversation, to a physical meeting, we are at one in moments, a spiritual intimacy that is humbling. Physicality, we could, but the relationships have transcended that. Imagine a time when such relationships are the normal state of existence. Where every spirit you encounter is open, caring, sharing, helps you achieve ecstasy, joy, and peace solely for your benefit with no attachements.

This spirit dreams  / remembers of such a time, of such a place, and pines greatly for it, because in the eyes and hearts of others, this spirit encounters that instant of sublime divinity…

May we all: Be blessed in all things; have our physical, mental, and spiritual wounds healed; experience joy in each moment; promote and know everlasting peace; recognise and celebrate the divine in all things; and rejoice in unity in the warmth of creations love.

~Namaste~

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Stuart your doing it to me again you know what : )

I think you unlocked some unknown secret hehe : )

Well I'll look forward to you doing that thing you do : )

                                          PEACE JOY : )

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Although, everyone might want to be careful of spending too much time around Joy (if ya don't want to fall in love)… she's a sweet one!  ;)

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I'm so laughing right now your a brave one : )

Very funny :  O

 Gotta LOVE IT : )

                                                   PEACE JOY : )

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I have not fallen in love yet, nor do I believe I ever will except (hopefully) once. However, I don't think that's a negative thing. Also, I'm a very independent person that enjoys the company of others but doesn't feel any great need for it (unlike most people).

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Love at first sight is a Hollywood construct used to sell movie tickets as is the concept of a soul mate a moneymaker for Hallmark.  These two concepts have destroyed more relationships than anything else.  Women especially.

Love is something that grows like a tree and establishes roots.  Love is accepting your partner's good and bad qualities and supporting them and alowing them to be themselves.

There are three components to a good relationship:

1.  I can be me

2.  You can be you

3.  We can be us

If you can maintain your identity and power in a relationship along with your partner than that is a good foundation for romance and sex.

By the way, having been married for almost 14 years at age 33 i know a lot about patience, commitment, loyalty and sex.

Sex changes as you are with someone for a long time.  It can be an expression of love, a fullfillment of a need, or a good time.  

Love means knowing yourself and maintaining yourself throughout the relationship with your partner.  Most women tend to lose parts of their identity in relationships and forget how important kepping their personal power is.  Never give up your power to anyone not even your spouse and keep your own life and rituals when married. 

A positive marriage or relationship means people come into it as individuals, stay individuals but unite for the common cause of the relationship. Becoming one in a spiritual sense is fine, but you also do not lose yourself just because you are in a relationship.

Attraction is necessary for people, as is sex and romance.  but…love is something different than lust or attraction and often they are confused.  Being married I joke with people, just because you are on a diet does nto mean you cannot look at the menu.

Part of a good relationship means allowing your partner to be allowed to be attracted to someone enough to vocalize it.  nobody should feel suffocated by love.  Love is generous and supportive not jealous and prsion like.

Another thing I want to mention is the possibility that when you meet someone you connect on such spiritual level you feel like you are in love but that is not love either.

If we could fall in love at first sight we would be amazingly shallow creatures who could not maintain relationships.  As after the sex and romance dust clears, marriage and relationships require commitment, compassion, tolerance, acceptance, faith and the ability to LIVE together and handle medical emergencies, accidents, cruel twists of fate, and children eventually if wanted.

But I do believe in lust at first sight.  Because when you first see someone it is not love but lust as a physiological drive that sparks.

Hope this helps…

Stacey 

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I think I'm in love not at first sight, but first conversation. I met this guy and after 5 minutes hearing him talk about his goals and saving the world, I think he got me… and this still continues on… We still have hours of good conversations in between our super busy schedule. Even our “how's your day?” conversation is filled with lessons and wisdom…. He has become my spiritual guru. Is it love? We'll see… But I did fell in love at the first conversation though…

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Be careful of that hero worship thing, nadia.

I was the target of some young girl s fascination not too long ago, and lonely me got sucked into TarPit of Hell Level 42, I kid you not. I ll spare you the gory details, needless to say I m getting over it all and yes that was love (BIG INVERTED COMMAS).
at first sight or first email (it started on the net) shame of it all.

I dont believe anyone who tells me they want to save 'the world”, sorry.

The most evolved gurus dont talk like that, so I would love to talk like that because let s face it if I got sucked in by some pretty face I m not that evolved :)

The only 'world' a singularity can 'save' is 'self' and that is MORE than enough - the ripples NEVER will end :)

God forbid anyone actually tried to save the world ;P

Love
Johann

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Nadia take your time with your new LOVE interest : ) get a chance to really see who he is first before you  leap into anything serious : )


                                                     PEACE JOY : )

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Sage advice, words of wisdom…and as previously mentioned, in can happen, don't let fear and societal norms disuade you…realize that a true spiritual master will not expect anything from you other than perhaps to learn from you, and to help you up to a level higher than even theirs if they can providing you are willing….even the greats took every opportunity to decry that they were not gods, and not to be worshipped…

Deep connection beyond the physicality , beyond words or hopes or aspirations or good conversation, in the place where one shares ones “soul”, reforges the links anew that connect us all…is this love…this spirit says yes…

Love and Light

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I believe in being ULTIMATELY ATTRACTED (especially if their bald!) to somebody at first sight!  But LOVE… well I've been married for 7 years… and if you are speaking about a partner, that one takes time.

BUT, if your speaking about your child… that kind of LOVE is INSTINTANEOUS and LIFE-ALTERING EXPLOSIVE!!  :-)

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I live it, when the conditions are right the opportunity exist for love at first site. for more detailed explanation on how just ask me I am happy to share my story:-)