What's Stopping Us?

Hi All,

 So what's stopping you from living your dream?

 Is it:

Obstacles such as lack of confidence, education, skill?

Fear around being actually as great as you are? 

Worry over how you will pay the bills, others will see you?

Or is it all of the above?

Would love to hear your thoughts….

MarySpirit

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Mary Spirit,

Funny you should ask…I am in the process of defining my own dream. Since, in my world, clarity and the degree thereof are truly the defining attributes to realization I am working assiduously on becoming clear what I want. I know that I want to make a difference in the world. I also know that my coaching practice does this one person at a time and while very rewarding does not completely fill me up. I believe I can be more and therefore do more and make a bigger difference.

Not to sound braggadocio but I have a skill set that is enviable and yet I am not leaping forward.  What I believe stops me is fear of failure…those very old recordings of not being enough…which I know on many conscious levels to be totally untrue but the insidous subconscious keeps me tethered and safe.

A recent conversation with a dear friend and client who eoncouraged me to take my work to a larger scale and offered several very viable alternatives all internally rebuffed with penny ante excuses. So, maybe this whole process of seeking clarity is nothing more than a smoke screen to defer taking a stand, making a commitment and getting into action.

What do you all think? Your insights or thoughts are welcome. Thank you for broaching the subject…there truly are no coincidences in the Universe.

Fondly,

Coach 

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Dear Coach,

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Opps.  Wrong button.  Anyway, I am not an expert on the matter- but here is my opinion.  I understand your inner dialog and I am working on that also.  As far as clarity of goals are concerned, I think that there is a compromise between complete clarity and the foolish leap of faith.  On one end of the spectrum, a person can get caught in analysis paralysis looking for more and more to confirm and justify a decision.  On the other end of the spectrum, jumping into projects and goals without understanding the whys and wheres.  There will always be the leap of faith factor needed to move forward in many important goals. 

Leaps of faith can be difficult - but I believe that if you have clarified your intention and feel it is right for you and humanity, universal energy will support the effort or provide the “uplifting wind” that would direct this positive engery into the direction you need to go.

Lovingly, Lisa 

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Perhaps your stated goals are not valuable enough to you to make them inevitable. 

Using the model that a goal must be as fully fleshed-out as possible and envisioned in the present tense, for this goal must be able to motivate you through all of the intervening distractions - both fun and awful. 

A goal that is too puny, or too selfish (or whatever you subconscious abhor) cannot pull you out of a current comfort zone.  Most people are very tentative and choose small goals because they are easy.  They are also boring.  Try to talk one of yoiur children into something you consider boring.  How do they respond? That is how you respond, too.  Your subconsious mind is a lot like a 6-year-old child.  Bright shiny circus goals with much meat, song and motion, will move you where starting a business that will make lots of money but only uses your known skills and talents will not move your 6-year-old self. 

Search for the goal that you would do right now, this minute, if money and time were no object.  When asked what this would be, many of my clients say, “I would be fishing…   but I can't make a living doing that.”  I know a man who turned his love of such pursuits into a TV show about hunting and fishing and he travels around the world doing expeditions. 

I suggest you do not turn away from your most cherished dream for reasons of money or time.  These will resolve themselves, if you let the universe handle how your goal will come to you and in what form.  As Abraham-Hicks suggest(s) write your to-do list, and put the parts you can do today, i.e. Call somebody to tell them what you are planning to do, on the left hand side and on the right, put all the things that the Universe can do for you, i,e,  Bring the person who has the answer to the hardest question you can pose, or finding the funding agent, or what-have-you. 

- Wolf

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What is stopping me from living my dream?

I suppose my biggest obstacle is actually formulating a clear picture of my dream.  My personality is such that I tend to live in the moment and focus on the 'here and now'.  I've been working with a coach over the past 2 months and I have begun to formulate ideas on my dream career and dream life.  I see the potential of losing focus on the dreams I formulate or deciding to change these in mid stream.  Writing out my values, roles and goals has been a helpful practice.  I still need to take the time to allow my head to float up in the clouds…and then come back down with a clear picture of where I want to be.

John

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Generally speaking, I'd say it's unproductive unconscious beliefs and lack of a well-formed goal.

Personally, I am living my dream… :)

Be well

Donald