Gaia: Transpersonal Dating - Lets hook it up!

Chicagoland

http://powerofserenity.gaia.com — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 07:32:17 GMT

I'm currently going to college in Champaign - but anyone else here from Chicago area? :)

Jennifer

Baltimore?

http://shawnterrell.gaia.com — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 14:37:21 GMT

Anyone in the area? Would like to discuss this topic. Very interesting.

Re: Invite?

http://ADLIAC.gaia.com — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 13:05:11 GMT

An invite to what?

The best approach to anything would be to fill out your profile, add some photos, blog a bit, put in books, quotes, and goals, get some Friends, join some other groups and post there as well, then put your location here and see if anyone in your area can find you here and wants to meet.

You can also search for folks in your area, in the Members section.

Hope that helps.

OM Bastet

Invite?

http://DesertDoug.gaia.com — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 21:59:33 GMT

How do I go about getting an invite.
Thanks,
Eagleman

Re: Indianapolis IN

http://turtle73.gaia.com — Tue, 25 Dec 2007 03:37:39 GMT

I live in Delphi which is about 1 1/2 hrs north of you! You can add me if you want....I am fairly new here too.

Indianapolis IN

http://sayyadena.gaia.com — Tue, 25 Dec 2007 03:35:50 GMT

Hi there, I am new today. Anyone in the Indy area?

Re: southern appalachia

http://jackii.gaia.com — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 15:28:21 GMT

yay! i've moved to asheville, nc.

so far it has been a powerful event. i'm living with a yoga instructor and fellow shadowworker from my men's group. i'm exercising a lot more, eating a lot better, drinking alchohol is almost nil, tv watching is much less (no cable). and we're talking about taking it all to a new level, and we're cautious to do it mindfully.

i even have a partial job (not that i need one yet). I'm helping a small job construction contractor to do various tasks that free him up to focus on getting the work done right. the guy is extremely easy-going and fun to work with. he has other people that can work with him, so it's not anything i can count on. however, it's good experience and good exercise and good social interaction when he wants me to help out.

asheville is a very cool city. you wouldn't believe all the options i have to join various groups that promote evolution in the green, indigo, violet, and non-dual.

Re: southern appalachia

http://jackii.gaia.com — Sat, 25 Aug 2007 06:28:43 GMT

next weekend, i'll be dancing at an event called a drum dance. i did this last year, as well. it involves a food, water and speaking fast from sundown friday until late morning sunday. it also involves dancing in a straight line forward and backward to the beat of a native american style of drumming (mostly lakota songs). we dance about six hours over that time, and rest in silence in an outdoor shelter most of the rest of the time.

there is lots of ritual involved, including a sweat lodge and lots of smudging.

it is rather amazing how intensely close people can get to each other without talking. the dance has a overall intention of personal and global health.

there is also a similar dance that lasts an extra day longer. i've helped other people dance in that extended dance last weekend, and found it extremely rewarding.

it's impossible to explain just how time stops at these events, and how much happens in the few days we gather.

Re: Northern California

Tue, 14 Aug 2007 20:35:15 GMT

I like your words Gabriel, and I do think there are men out there who value that aspect of a relationship immensely. I was recently told that in the States, it's not comme il faut (good manners) to talk about exes and their flaws or whatever. Sure I know it's like that over there - ridiculouos dating going on for ages, all just facade and now truth, until then it all breaks down after marriage... My approach scares Americans because I'm direct and blunt and revelatory of major events in my life. It's part of my Finnish background but also do I want to see right away whether the person in question is being scared off or not. I'm a strategic warrior who doesn't want to be trapped or blamed of deciet. In my mind that's how intimacy can going very fast, by really opening up on the vulnerable levels as soon as possible.

Ww, apparently the google map did not show your right location, which is a bit sad because it really looks like I'm packing up my things to go to Kansas early next year. I'd love to meet you in person and mirror stuff with you on that level too. No, I'm not into women, but I'm eager to talk to and bond with them. It could be both men and women basically but men of course, well if you meet them in real life it tends to become a black and white situation where you need to go for the courship or nothing else. Cheers! :-)))

Anyone here from the gorgeous Saskatchewan prairies?

http://SatoriArthouse.gaia.com — Tue, 31 Jul 2007 21:42:12 GMT

Would love to meet some forward thinking beautiful individuals who love to talk and laugh.

South Florida, For now anyway

http://jubu531.gaia.com — Mon, 30 Jul 2007 00:39:10 GMT

I am in the midst of a very long-term job seach, and have realized that this is not the place for me. Where I will end up is unknown and uncertain. The Chinese proverb, "To be uncertain is uncomfortable, but to be certain is ridiculous" comes to mind. I will go wherever there is a place for me. Who knows, maybe somone in here has a place for me where I can find a job in my field.

Finland, a solitary place...

Fri, 06 Jul 2007 12:26:02 GMT

I live in Finland but have never felt much at home here. I do not feel that I can date in the Finnish language so I have ended up seeking alternatives, but so far the results have been deeply unsatisfactory. At the moment I cannot leave the country, not on my own at least, since I'm somewhat tied down due to a lack of finances and other resources. This is a very small country so the likelihood of finding someone who speaks English or Swedish (my mothertongue) is very small. A few years ago I ended up with a Mexican-American man who lives here, but it was a very turbulent relationship. As often happens, this person promised way more than he was able to deliver, and was acting out of false pretenses regarding his own abilities.

Not feeling that I have a great deal of choice in finding someone who is spiritually attuned but also willing to integrate physical reality and their shadow into their being, I have ended up making compromises that were less than satisfactory. All in all, I have a tendency to take on other people's burdens. Right after I broke up with that guy someone in the US found me through the internet and started up a relationship with me (a webcam plus a headset was the means). He claimed to be falling deeply in love with me, but coming over here seemed way too troublesome. Since so many adversities were in the way, I got very suspiscious and stressed out. What I mean is that if there is a lack of a flow on some level, then something serious is blocking the process. It could be that the result one is striving for is not meant to be, and/or that one is not able to put things into practice due to some deeper Shadow issue. I realized that this guy was way too idealistic. In a classical way, he fell in love with my strong sense of reality, but shied away once he realized that it was threatening his desire for an easy going and comfortable relationship. He did not want to step down from what he saw as his high spiritual level. Needless to say, he then attacked me vehemently for having been deceitful, which of course I had not been. It all ended at yet another sad and chaotic note.

I was kind of relieved because I had done what was best for me, which was to refuse to continue going along with other people's fictitious needs. I am still waiting to see if I will fall into my old sense of hopelessness though. At the moment I feel empowered and that despite everything, I got some insights out of all this. However, here I still am, isolated in this solitary and harsh country!

Re: southern appalachia

http://jackii.gaia.com — Fri, 04 May 2007 18:32:20 GMT

the personal and transpersonal, to me, are one integrated piece. they can be focused on to appear individual, but that is an illusion.

i had a dream last night that was just this lesson. i saw my rational mind focusing various patterns (like the personal or transpersonal), and making decisions based on that focused knowledge. but when acting on that decision the intuitive mind, which is connected to infinity often stops the action from being taken due to shadowed or unseen influences.

in my work in group wednesday i looked this as well. i kept speaking alternatively from the voice of the rational mind and then the voice of the intuitive mind. the rational mind got pissed off at the intuitive mind for teasing the rational mind with knowledge to make decisions and then stopping the choice. the intuitive mind laughed it off, saying get used to it, because i have access to so much more data that you can't handle.

prolly the wrong pod for this, but fuck it. lol

---

from the moment i reached out to hold i felt a sound,
and what touches our soul slowly moves as touch rebounds,
and to know that tempo will continue - lost in trance of dances,
as rhythm takes another turn.

as is my want,
i only reach,
to look in your eyes.
--yes

Re: southern appalachia

http://WHITEWAVE.gaia.com — Fri, 04 May 2007 04:26:39 GMT

...oh...

...the Gates...

How current.

Kill or be killing - faster sins correct the flow. Casting giant Shadows of vast penetrating force. ... The pen won't stay the demon's wings - the hour approaches! Pounding out the devil's sermon!

Soon, oh, soon the light
Pass within and soothe this endless night
We'll wait here for you
Our reason to be here

Soon, oh, soon the time
All we move to gain will reach and calm
Our heart is open
Our reason to be here

Long ago
Set it to rhyme

Soon, oh, soon the light
Ours to shape for all time, ours the right
The sun will lead us
Our reason to be here

Soon, oh, soon the light
Ours to shape for all time, ours the right
The Son will lead us
Our reason to be here

---oOo---

How could they miss that?

I think I tried to get my church to sing "Onward" from Tormato.

Blind guides. And that was The Vineyard!! Although, knowing what I know now, I'm no longer surprised.

...!...

Inneresting spin on Genesis. It'd be cool to collect all the different interpretations for those first 3 chapters in a book. Even from children. Damned insightful stuff!

Blessings to you.

~Ww

Re: southern appalachia

http://WHITEWAVE.gaia.com — Fri, 04 May 2007 04:03:47 GMT

This is great work!

And this is why the Personal should and can be included in the Transpersonal. Because there is nothing to fear in knowing one another's or our own stories - nothing to fear but being known. Guy Finley is now one of the advertizers on zaadz and I listened to one of his audio recordings the other day. He said that the one thing that gets in the way of love is the terror of too much awareness. He put it slightly differently, but that's basically it.

Beautiful stuff, man.

~Ww

Re: southern appalachia

http://jackii.gaia.com — Wed, 02 May 2007 15:10:12 GMT

had a wonderful four-day weekend at a pagan gathering around the theme of sacred sexuality. my connections are growing with this group as this was my fourth time at an event there. i'm deepening intimacy with more and more people, and getting more comfortable with other people's nudity and previously shocking behavior.

i used my flogger for the first time. i bought it a year ago, but haven't found a timing to use it. i got good feedback from the participant and onlookers. that was about an hour session of flogging and caressing and close eye contact and other playing with some instruments of pain that she brought (spatula spanking, light caning).

had one night of bonfire dancing that was the most intense for me, yet. tho i didn't get naked like other times, i felt better bonding with the whole group. i did get topless and was freeballing under a skirt.

i was gifted the opportunity to where a pagan pentacle and represent the family whenever i want. the man who sold it to me makes the pendant/necklaces. and tho i could have put it on myself, when he volunteered to put it on me, i felt an warm acceptance from all my newest friends.

i got to discuss polyamory with polyamorists and made some interesting beginning connections. a couple of them beyond the subtle connections, with actual voiced communication. no ventures into the four intentional conversations, which shows myself that i'm comfortable being single.

i participated energetically in an anal massage. the instructor did the only physical probing with latex gloves, and the people watching were inviting to share in the energy with laying on of hands. i chose to hold the person's hand and head. it was a powerful wonderful event. just like reflexology on the foot the anus has connections to the whole body. and being powerful close to the root chakra, it's amazing that there is such a huge shadow to consciously working with it.

i 'played' with my goddess (an entity, not embodied in any person). i'm still not sure of her name, possibly artemis or morgana or kali. for a while i was a slave to her, being told to stay seated on the floor of the 'dungeon' and not move for hours. then she set me free to participate as a free man. the beginning and ending of dungeon-play every night was brought in and out with ritual inviting all gods to oversee. no pomposity, but a serious desire for spiritual wisdom of communication, respect and transformation, which is all a very natural fit for bdsm.

the president of the association (free spirit alliance) died last winter, and there was a memorial service at the labyrynth. and during the service i felt called to be an occasional receptacle for his spirit and accepted it, as he accepted me.

i would have liked to share some of the uniquely innovative ways the rituals were done to enhance the spirit of the whole community toward openness and deepening connection. i would also like to give props to the two main sources of those rituals. but i feel that the spirits prefer i just say that, i am honored to be working with this part of wildly creative forces.

Northeast Ohio

Sat, 07 Apr 2007 23:44:47 GMT

Hi all,
I'm a 25 year old, mostly hetero female from northeast ohio. I don't have time to date at present and won't until I finish my masters program in May 08, but I'm always looking and always interested in meeting new people.
Cheryl

Re: Northern California

http://WHITEWAVE.gaia.com — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 23:56:54 GMT

Just so everyone who's reading knows... I'm not ignoring you, jackii. You're just keeping me jumping in my other pod so I can't keep up, and largely because of your infectious enthusiasm, I've started a whole new pod to manage! Like I have enough time to do all this well! LOL It's not your fault! You've just dipped into my own internal well of passion for this work and the flood has completely overrun me. But it's all good!! I'll just have to keep going forward and keep trying and keep forgiving myself for not doing this perfectly.

Blessings to all and welcome all newcomers that I haven't yet greeted!

~Ww

Re: southern appalachia

http://jackii.gaia.com — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 11:17:49 GMT

well, you are correct. there are infinite solutions.

one is simple one, realizing there is no problem.

another is simple, listening and dancing to yes music, or maybe alanis music, or some such derivitive.

or in my case, watch the serenity movie, and the firefly tv dvd series over and over, with and without commentaries, until you really see the gorram, ruttin‘ ching sao tsai da. and then for variety watching the sci-fi channel's dune and children of dune over and over. until you really see the fulcrum. and of course, doing shadowwork with and without trained and training facillitators.

and infinite Love.

you are 100% connected to God, Infinity. whether you know it or not.

Re: southern appalachia

http://jackii.gaia.com — Tue, 27 Mar 2007 10:13:42 GMT

from one of my posts to http://pods.zaadz.com/yes_heaven/discussions/view/120318

YES was it for me, too. before and after my hardcore 'christian' years. i am thankful for my time there, tho i missed out on the era where free sexual love was practiced. they really ingrained in me the practice of listening to the inner voice. that inner voice, which assured me that it was Jesus, led me to a God that was much bigger than the one they seemed to worship. a god that embraces all paths like the sun shines on all beings.

think of that!!!!!stars shine so completely that thousands of light-years away to a minuscule speck of a planet, to a miniscule speck of my eyes it is ever present. so first you've got to get the scope of this, a light-SECOND is 286,000 miles, the earth is 8,000 miles in circumference, so roughly 36 times around the earth every second. times 60 sec, times 60min, times 24 hours, times 365 days, times 1000's of year. now that's how far that light travels and further. and then think of the sphere that would generate and every point as small as my eyes (and thru atmosphere) on that sphere is still getting light.

anyway, now Infinity is my God. and infinity is big in so many ways. in infinity, that star example is crushed into a nothing, into an atom-sized prick of light in another world just as big as the star is to me. and over and over and over again each concept of infinity is dwarfed by Infinity. and that is just one direction of the physical dimension. the other direction of the physical is to the miniscule, again, we can (well we can't) magnify infinitely small. i think you can understand that the atomic level is so small that we really have no possible way to grasp as to have small it is, and then in Infinity further and further magnification (if it were possible) would reveal further and further, infinite complexity. and that is only the physical dimension.

then there is time, without any beginning. scientists used to say it began with the big bang, but now they say that the big bang repeats itself over and over and over, etc. and that is only one direction of time, turning to the miniscule increments of time there is no smallest moment. in a nanosecond, only 1/100000000 of a second an infinity of events happen.

and then there are the dimensions of consciousness, which are ....

and then infinite other dimensions.

Infinity, my God

yes, and christianity, and many (infinite?) other sources have blessed and cursed me, if i think of it that way.

but now i want to share a view of the bible that i feel for me is The critical enlightenment spark of my life. this is not something anyone else has to believe, and for truth i only half believe it.

in genesis, the story of the garden of eden says that eating from the tree of knowledge of good and evil is what got adam and eve kicked out. it says that it was a disobedience of god that was what got them kicked out, but i think that the crucial point is that the 'fruit' of that tree is what did it. i recognized that eating that 'fruit' means judging things as good and evil, and even as good and bad. so when we divide things into good and bad, we divide god into two. then we say god is good and the devil is evil. and then everything is not god, and That is what kicks us out of the garden of eden.

so the whole bible is only stories of people out of touch with the one true god, because they keep eating from this 'tree'.

now a paradox arises, if saying this is good and this is bad is wrong (bad), then we are still eating of the fruit if we say, i'm not going to judge things as good or bad, because that's bad. it's not bad to eat from the 'tree'. so... what is the solution?????