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i am poly, tho single at this point.
polyamory is such a big subject, that i'm hesitant to start a conversation. it is one of my passions tho, so let's do it.
my experience is that it is the most logical and compassionate way to deal with the reality of social dynamics.
it seems to me that each of us seeks the most compatible of people to bond with. we feel for the synergies that make us more than ourselves. when two or more people meet and there is a zing, a natural high and power of connection, then it is natural that we try to find a way to maintain that level of personal energy.
monogamy, which as i see it is The most solid religion of humankind, does work to a certain degree to maintain this connection between two. now tho, there is a critical mass of non-believers, after so many failed experiments monogamy is found to be inefficient for too many. monogamy breeds jealousy. polyamory, at least the version of polyamory that i am drawn to proactively deals (with open communication) with jealousy, and all the other 'sins' that keep us from the deeper levels of unconditional love.
i try to balance both the personal outlook and at the same time use that personal outlook to develop an effective bonding system. but not a static system, as social dynamics will continually throw in new pieces of the puzzle that will force adaptation and improvisation.
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