Re: The Heart as a Cipher, and a Map

Kate,

I am sorry to hear that your heart is breaking at the moment. I am sending you much love.

We seem to be going through the same experience at the moment. A few days ago, I parted ways with the one that I have been loving for the past 6 months. It is an incredibly difficult experience but when my mind is still, I know that I have made the right decision. I have been on a spiritual journey all my life but only recently experienced such tremendous growth. My ex has been a catalyst for that growth and for that I will be eternally grateful to him. I believe that each person that comes into our lives, however long/short, is meant to teach us something. I know that I have learned so much from my ex. But I also realise that I have always had this knowledge or being. He just fanned the fire for me to I could see more clearly what was already there. 

To answer some of your questions:

will you love again? - ABSOLUTELY. I have no doubt that there is an infinite amount of love and that you will find someone who will reflect your soul again and you will have this kind of love again. 

What shape is my heart in? I have felt pretty bruised lately but I know that I have the ability to change that. It helps to focus on the present and be grateful for things you have in your life. 

How have you coped with heartbreak? - Dealing with heartbreak is one of the most difficult things in life. I am trying to focus on the present moment. I have very fond memories of my relationship and am in no means trying to brush those aside. But I am here NOW and that is what matters. Some books that have helped me: “When Things Fall Apart” (Pema Chodron), “Embracing Uncertainty” (Susan Jeffers), “The Power of NOW” (Eckhart Tolle)

Having said all that, I think it's important to be gentle with yourself. Each relationship that comes into your life takes you one step closer to what you deserve in life.  

Much love and peace to you,

Wendy