Comings and Goings on Gaia

It started with you, PJ..I was barely into Zaadz when I read people being sad you'd left and hadn't told anyone. Fast forward to a year later, Samme lit a light for you, and you were found and came back …to Gaia.

Then it was Samme's turn to leave for a while [or did we just think that happened?]–we exhorted him to return–and he is back!

Some of us take breaks and let everyone know and it's enjoyable to be away as it is to be here; and all works well…because after all, Gaia is within us; and that is what it's all about for me.

And today it was Andrew who blinked out by letting us all know, and started furores of discussions..and is now back.

O.K: enough about me.

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O.K. I'll go first.

A few times,I've logged into Gaia and seen someone's post and gone – “Oh no! What is she/he going to say to me now?” and then I feel “I can always leave.” followed by  “One can never run away because the problem is within me –I faced it; it was my perception; my energy that attracted whatever it was that troubled me, and now it's time to leave ego-land, where I feel that YOU are troubling ME”—and go to the land where I realize that I am being shown something that'll get me out of myself….”


Ego/separateness leaves…
…and then I come back. [and no one even knows!]

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Hi Meenakshi,

This is excellent, to have this discussion, just what I was hoping.

I have taken time off, yes, in fact I took nearly the whole year 2007 off, but that wasn't because I feel offended by people on the site, rather that I was too depressed to talk to anyone in any way, except for family, work-related and one or two very very persistent friends :)

The best thing about leaving was how great it was to reconnect. In fact though I was an Ambassador before I left, I have become much more deeply involved in different aspects of the life of the community this time round.

I had to take a brief breather last week because of computer problems and no doubt will not be online much this weekend as my friend with be visiting. But it's wonderful to know that people care here and that whenever I go away and return, there are always such warm friendly messages of welcome home!

Love and light,

Nicole

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I may comment more next week, but for now:

1)  I would only hope that people who profess so much energy and desire for change flit away on occassion and share that energy and compassion outside of Gaia - out there in the bigger world and community.  As such, I would think such abscenses to be a pragmatic application of the values which are espoused on this site;

2)  I do not understand the coming and going in the form of deleting accounts.  I have one friend who has done this twice - I still appreciate him, still embrace him every return (and am glad to see him back) - but still do not understand “why.”  Then again, I really do not have to understand …

3)  Define “coming and going.”  Like Nicole, much of 2007 I contributed very little on Zaadz now Gaia, but in a sense of “overwatch” and “observation” I was very much here… I've posted that soon I'll be inactive in the sense of contributions, since with the AMB badge I see that as a form of responsibility of explaining why I may not comment on blogs/threads, et cetera, and not be able to give a reply to every comment graciously provided for the few contributions (poems) that I will be making in that period.  Without the AMB tag, I'd probably not make such an announcement - and if 2007 is any indication, either folks would not notice, or they'd be completely at peace with that…

4)  From a personal perspective, when I'm not on Gaia (“gone”), I think and feel much like I do when I'm here. ;)

Good topic.  Thanks for starting the discussion!

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The important thing is they are back as explained on PJ&Samme profiles the comings and goings.

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I have not taken a break from Gaia yet, I nearly did a couple of days ago though, but someone mailed me and I got talking and I stayed lol
I just got a bit fed up, couldn't think of anything to say except how miserable I was feeling and I didn't want to lower the energy here by doing that. There were no posts I felt interested in enough to answer, same with the blogs. So I decided to stay away til I felt happier.

I have left other boards, without posting I was going to do so.
Mainly ones where Lightworkers congregate, the emotions do run high there and if I am upset, I don't retaliate, I just go.
Those I am close to I mail sos they don't worry and we stay in touch.

Then there are those I have outgrown.

And those I become bored with.

However, Gaia has lots of interesting groups, so, maybe I won't get too bored.

But, if I should leave, remember I love you and won't forget you xxx

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I've been “away” from Gaia for about four months now.  I find I withdraw when depressed (big surprise, right?) and when I say, “withdraw” I mean WITHDRAW!!

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(for some reason, my posting was involuntarily interrupted).  Anyway, as I was saying, when I'm depressed, the thought of connecting with other people not only doesn't interest me, I feel actually repulsed by the notion.  It's crazy, I know, because that should be the time when connecting would do me the most good.  I think it's just my self-hatred generalizing to everybody else.  I also feel somewhat cowed by how intelligent and articulate everybody on this particular website is.  (I never got past high school.)  Anyway, I am feeling better these days, due in no small part to Obama's win, so I might be sticking around a little better.  Greetings, all.

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I can really relate, nimrod. Good to have you with us now!

Love,

Nicole

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Hey, nimrod, so what's it called now that you're back???? :))

We call it being really glad you are feeling better and you are feeling like being here and participating again !!!

Blessings, OM Bastet

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Hi Nimrod!  I'm Jackie, a newbie here on the site.  Nice that you decided to come back and looking foward to hearing more from and about you!

Peacefully ~

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I'm just always so pleased that there are so many folks able and willing to share exactly what they are able and willing to share: how can we ask anymore of ourselves or each other?
Active interaction, active observation, inability to interact or even observe for some reason, or avoidance… they all seem to suit a purpose in various times.

Blessings to all,
David

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With respect and honor to all on gaia,

I just posted this item in hopes of gathering more interest in the problem named The Elephant!

This is one reason people leave pods, &/or the site….

I just posted this item….
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Deb & Ashley,

With respect & admiration to you Ashley for starting up the youth group, and with respect to you Deb for all the monitoring you do on this site…. I have decided, upon your recommendation Deb, to delete myself from the YOUTH pod… my mentoring is not needed these are very smart young folk!

However, the elephant that has caused so much disharmony in this community previously is back at it.  Maybe someday someone will address the matter more directly… Meanwhile I again retreat from stupidity…

I will delete myself from ALL pods (except staff pods & this pod) that the elephant still romps in disturbing the gaia peace. By doing this I do not give the elephant my power, instead I make it known to all who bother to look into the matter, that this is the very thing that is condoned in our society, tolerated even until a large enough number of people say Enough!


So I begin the chant: ENOUGH! I come up from the emails behind the scenes to say stop this nonsense Before the elephant selects another member to harrang..  How many now…. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, & counting, one after another is incediously drawn in until they are exhausted…. ENOUGH!

pj
 

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Hello All…

Thanks for posting here and feeling comfortable enough to share your feelings and experiences about the Comings and Goings on Gaia!

I'm jumping in here to learn more about the problem named The Elephant..
Peggy J, if this is one of the reasons people leave pods or the Gaiasphere altogether then maybe this thread, at Gaia Networking, is a good forum to discuss what it is, how it affects each of us, and how we can work thru it.

Are we calling a person who is a member of a pod but has forgotten our guidelines…

By joining the site, you acknowledge that you are entering this community with reverence, compassion, respect for yourself, your fellow members, and the law, and a desire to grow and to give to the world.

…The Elephant? I'm thinking this is probably the case from what you said in your post,

“However, the elephant that has caused so much disharmony in this community previously is back at it.  Maybe someday someone will address the matter more directly… Meanwhile I again retreat from stupidity…”

Or is this phenomenon sort of a mob mentality? A group of people who have forgotten the second part of our guidelines…

So while you're here, instead of criticizing, create something new! Instead of trying to get someone to adopt your beliefs, try exploring a different perspective that incorporates both your views. Instead of resisting a challenging opinion, try to learn something either from the person or about yourself. Pay attention to what's best in others, and encourage it… and assume that others will do the same for you. :)

…by taking sides, putting on blinders, and blasting someone who is part of the group but who, for whatever reason, pushed at someone's beliefs the wrong way?

Or maybe all of the above and more…

The only way, in my opinion, for this site, for our communities, for the entire world to get past in fighting and wars, to get past caring only for those who are like us, to get past the invisible but very powerful borders erected by mankind to keep 'the enemy' out… is to learn to COMMUNICATE!

This means learning to communicate with people who are prickly, people who make a habit of finding fault with anything they come across, people who don't realize how their words are hurting others, people who take slight at every word uttered and are sure they are being put upon or attacked by the community. Yes, we have all encountered someone like this if we've been on-line and communicating for very long.

At times, we too are this insecure, fearful, insensitive, hurting person armed with a keyboard and our human failings…

If you have found yourself in a situation where you felt uncomfortable, unsafe, attacked, or pressured what crossed your mind? What was your first instinct? Did you chose any of the following options?

A. Leave Gaia
B. Contact a friend/s here and enlist their help
C. Alert Siona and the Team
D. Put your profile on Friends Only
E. All of the above
F. Other

Can we have this discussion without pointing fingers and naming names, please? We have all stepped on each other's toes, crossed boundaries, and hurt feelings at some point in our lives. Having people called out in public isn't productive nor does it make us better people for it.

For those of you who left and then came back, we're very glad you rejoined the conversation, even if it's only on a private, friends only basis!

Smiles!
amber

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Zmiles for sure.

I'm only here for a short while yet was drawn to this post by Amber And had to THANKS!

That's what I'm talking about!

Blessings, David

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“You have heard that is it said, Be kind to your friend, and hate your enemy.”

“But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless anyone who curses you, do good to anyone who hates you, and pray for those who carry you away by force and persecute you,” 

“So that you may become sons of your Father who is in heaven, who causes his sun to shine on the good and the bad, and who pours down his rain upon the just and the unjust.” 

“For if you love only those who love you, what reward will you have?”

This is an extract from the Judeo-Christian scriptures.

It voices from the Christian perspective what I believe Gaia is about.

I know there is an equivalent scripture in Buddhist teachings, Hindu teachings and other religious faiths.  I'm in the middle of shifting house and all my stuff is buried, so I can't put my hand on it.

Would someone be so kind as to add the scriptures from their faith that give the above message.

I'd like to compare the positive aspects of our various foundational faiths and thought that this might be a good place to start and to lift the tone of this thread from judgement to joy.

And in doing this I believe we'll find there's a lot more to agree on than to disagree about.

-an eccentric Aussie

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[Mod note:]

Andrew, that is a great idea; and I have reposted this as

Re: Inspiring thoughts about community- judgment to joy

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Amber, thank you for reminding us about the need for assessing and re-assessing our own roles in the Gaia community, within the community guidelines.

I was reading the posts on this thread, and seeing how many times, the thought of coming or going or returning or a break, can occur to us.  I think it's the same as the thoughts we may have about our f2f  relationships or even life in general.

Speaking personally, the feeling that I can always leave, is something that is like an air- vent in a room; or the gills of a fish, that allow air in but not water; and remove toxins.
———————–
It's important to make a clean break as none of us can know whether or not it is permanent. Life flows!

Clean break in this context means not to leave questions or feelings in people's minds, which will cause them to discuss or call or wonder what happened. Energetically, removing hooks and cords; detaching. Otherwise we leave physically but stay energetically attached.  That is fine too, if it is what we would like to do. [refer to ENERGY CLEARING- cords and hooks]

There are many ways that we can use the Gaia features to take a break or leave without burning bridges; in other words, being connected but not attached:

• make our profile “private” or Friends only and if we come back, change the settings
  
• inform our friends and let a few know an outside email address in case we'd like to stay in touch. Remove friends whom we would not like to stay in touch with.
  
• turn over our pods to a moderator; or inform pod members that we're leaving, giving them a chance to save their posts if they're so inclined

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I understand clearly now.
I will get back to this soon.
Thanks for bringing me light, my dear friend, and all,
Love you

L

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Thanks for sharing these ideas, ~KES. I'd like to talk about some of them, and have copied your post  to Re: Inspiring thoughts about community- social/anti-social  to more fully discuss those thougths there; and continue  this thread for the ways of coming and going on Gaia.

One point that we can discuss here, is an implication of how to remove members/ prevent ourselves from being affected by Gaia members who disturb us.

This seems to be contrary to what Gaia is about, but at various times, a member may disturb you, or you may disturb others.

 It is always emotional, but if we can take actions that are not emotion-based, but based on community ways, I believe that we can stay away without getting unduly disturbed.

Peggy J multiple Goings

I joined Zaadz in January 2007 and have never felt like leaving or taking a break.  I do struggle a bit at times, with a thought many of us have occasionally, do I spend too much time here?  Is my life balanced with family and work and “me” time beyond the Gaia space.  I think for the most part it is, but it is a juggling act to fit Gaia into an already full life.  That is one reason why I have chosen to be active in only ONE community. 

One month after joining Zaadz, I picked up my first friend, a young woman named Carrie, who I am still fond of.  My 2nd friend a few days later was Peggy J.  We were never really close but I respected and liked her.  Then, Gaia bought Zaadz and quite a few members chose to leave, for whatever reason, it really didn't matter.  

Peggy J and I were so not very close.  It took me 2 months, after she left, to realize she was gone.  It was abrupt with no explanations, and as I was new to social networking community sites, I had no experience with such.  There was also alot of unease over the transition from Zaadz to Gaia; and a couple of others, who had been prominent about that time, disappeared as well.

At that time, when anyone left Zaadz, the management put a “deleted” with your smiley face that remained.  I didn't know what that meant.  I didn't know if she had gotten into a bit of trouble with management for being too outspoken and perhaps, they had booted her.  I was absolutely torn at the thought that anybody here at Gaia could go “poof” and end up a deleted.

After while, word came to me that Peggy J had left of her own will.  Then, I was a bit hurt.  She hadn't even said good-bye, but had just left me hanging.  Perhaps, she knew something about herself that caused her to leave that time.  When Samme and others, I among them, called her back, she came - but I think the heart of Peggy of Zaadz could not embrace Gaia enough to immerse.

She told me in my Living Metaphysics pod, of which she was a member, when she discovered I had run all over Zaadz posting notes and had written a blog the first time she left called - Missing Peggy J - that 

>>>”It was a personal growth thing when I left zaadz, a selfish thing, a feeling sorry for myself thing, a whole lot of facing health issues & crumbling mind thing….. and my computer died thing… well on & on….”<<<

At least, this time she told me -

>>>” I calmly decided to delete all my pods, blogs everything & move on…. I am packing up and leaving for good by tomorrow…peace dear one - - - pj“<<<
 
This time I knew why and that she was leaving.  This time I was ready to quickly let her go, as Peggy J is a force of her own in her own life, and one can not divert her anymore than they can easily divert water intent on going downstream.

I still care for and appreciate Peggy J but I can let her go this time, content that it is her choice, something I did not know last time.  For those who may not have known her well enough to get the good-bye this time, I share with you what she said.  I am thankful that Gaia management now says “no longer here”, it is so much less disturbing.  Heck “deleted” could have even been interpreted as left the planet, or this physical life, that thought went through my mind in those days.  It felt very Big Brotherish at the time.

And I am still not one to need a “break” or “leave”.  I figure I'll be here as long as friends are here, as long as the community does survive.  There is nothing I can not work through and no need to leave to make a point.  I have learned to communicate and communicate and communicate when necessary, until my heart and gut tell me All Is Well again.  Those of you who know me well, know that all of this is so.

Deb

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I hope the reprimand to Peggy is all worth it. She is more than loved… It would be great to recognise and note why; and why the elephant just doesn't have the pull that PJ did everytime she was in or out…

Sherri

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Sometimes an elephant is in fear of great leaders and like some termite in will gnaw away at someone.  PJ will be fine and I have her e mail if you want to write Sherrilene.

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Beautifully said - Thank you!
Blessings, David

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Hey Deb,

Thanks for the wonderful and heartfelt post.  I did not know PJ too well,  I guess we travelled on different paths in the Gaia community.

While I do not know the details of Peggy's decision to leave (again), I sense the following would resonate with her:

Tis funny the social online communities.  In the material world, if 3 or 4 people are having a conversation, it is rare that a stranger will walk into their space and just join in.  It is rarer still that they will take a contrarian view to the original folks, and put them down for their obvious sillyness.

Here at Gaia, pretty much anyone can walk into a discussion, and if they don't align with it, they can get all selfy rightsy, and disrupt those who are sharing their views openly, heartfully and lovingly.

An open heart is what Gaia is all about, and it can be very difficult for anyone to bare one's soul, when there is the risk that someone else can pop in and pee all over their exposed heart.

When it does happen, as I think Peggy may have experienced… we are left raw, emotional, naked and angry.  It is natural to want to distance ourselves from the experience. 

Ironically, the best possible source for healing those impositions, is right here at Gaia… amongst thousands of loving hearts, fully prepared to support each other.

I am sad that Peggy left, (again not know her well), because moments like this are growing moments… for everyone… and when we turn away from the  pain… we also turn away from the opportunity to rise to brand new levels of love and understanding.

Let us all pray that Peggy comes back..and once again finds joy in the love the we all hold for our Gaia family.

Love to all,

Dave

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KES -

How did you find such a perfect cartoon?, to make me smile at a bit of a sad moment.  It is always sad when someone leaves, when it feels like they didn't have to leave.  It feels like that but I honor her wishes.

Dave,

Isn't that it?  Really.  I had never thought of that difference -

>>>”Here at Gaia, pretty much anyone can walk into a discussion, … it can be very difficult for anyone to bare one's soul, when there is the risk that someone else can pop in and pee all over their exposed heart.”<<<

And yes, that has happened and that is what troubled Peggy J.  I'm not sure it happened TO her - it troubled her that it happened to those she felt protective of, cared for …and I think she did -

>>>”want to distance (herself) from the experience.”<<<

In the short few weeks she was back, we became much closer than before and I questioned her, “is it worth losing the good friendships because a few bother?”  I guess it was and I guess that hurts a bit too, now that I let myself feel it.  Yes, it does.  

Deb 
tears flowing and signing off now

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Deb,

Isn't this really the crux of what the community is all about?

PJ had hundreds of friends, and maybe one or two strangers found a way to pierce her heart. 

Isn't the lesson for all of us… that with so much love here at Gaia, and so many friends we have here, that there really is no one who can hurt us… or even hurt our other friends. 

If I could pray for one thing… one simple thing… for Gaia to be the change we all dream of… it is that we all know our hearts are safe here in this community. 

This does not mean safe from challenge… oh no.. instead, the safety comes from knowing we are loved and supported by so many, and that when we may feel hurt by another… we can smile… knowing that with the love and support of our community… no one can ever hurt our hearts.

At Gaia… we are never alone.

Love ya,

Dave

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Deb,

Thank you for sharing your emotions on the leaving of Peggy J. It is good for all of us to recognize a loss to the community, to honor a friend, to acknowlegde our feelings… we take so much for granted these days and a friend is something so precious that to simply shrug our shoulders and move on would be horrendous to say the least.

It is also good for us to realize that it only takes one person, whether intentionally or in ignorance, to hurt someone badly enough they would wish to leave. There is so much love here at Gaia, but this is a species still reaching for a higher self, and we're all vulnerable to hurt and rejection not realizing we all have the power to turn that hurt into love for the person who has hurt us. Someday we will know this instinctively and be at peace.


Dave,

I loved what you said here,

“This does not mean safe from challenge… oh no.. instead, the safety comes from knowing we are loved and supported by so many, and that when we may feel hurt by another… we can smile… knowing that with the love and support of our community… no one can ever hurt our hearts.

At Gaia… we are never alone.”

And I laughed at the last line… At Gaia… we are never alone…

A fate worse then death for those who are simply wanting to blog in peace!

In this community we're all family and you may wish that your Uncle Jed Enlightened One would stay off your blog for the Holidays and your Aunt Mable Rising Moon would keep her nose out of your profile postings but this is not likely to happen! Before I put my settings on Community Only I even had a complete stranger butt in on a personal blog because I typed the word 'hysterectomy'. Since he has this word alerted on his google search I may get to see him yet again right here on Gaia Networking! Hugz to him!

We all get to decide what personality we wish to be in our 'on-line community'. We can be the hermit, the extrovert, the sensitive type, the thinker, the spiritual one, the Grandmother or Grandfather, the wise one, the silly one… and on and on. We can also decide to leave the community and focus our strengths in our real life communities for as long as we like!

Whatever we do, be it on Gaia or in our real lives, let's do it in joy, in love, and at our highest possible selves… Peggy J will be missed as all family is missed and we know she's going to do great things because she's a Gaian.

Amber

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thanks for setting things straight again amber.

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Amber,

Thanks for such truth in all your words and for this parting thought, because I do believe it is also true …

>>>”(Peggy J) is going to do great things because she's a Gaian.”<<<

that I believe, there is something special about being called to be here, and I don't say that because I am - here.

Deb

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Hi everyone

I have been affronted several times because of totally offensive behaviours here on GAIA. It is definitely not all hearts and rosesl!

And it isn't always a simple matter of a misunderstanding etc. Sometimes there is blatant disregard of people's sensibilities displayed and [apparently] endorsed by GAIA management.

I get so offended sometimes!

I've said it many times: were it not for the individual hearts and minds that walk here and help to keep the energies warm and high, I would not come back everyday.

I used to think it was a cultural thing since I am 'from the island' but since a different 'breed' of GAIAn has clearly been taking the fore in recent times, I again realise that the beauty of our humanity prevails and rises to the top regardless of the baser parts which don't have any sustenance, national culture irrespective.

And having said that, I exercise my right to come, take what I need, and leave if I want to, everyday. But according to what is working for me. I have gone for several days at a time away and it was ok. But to leave all my friend behind without a forwarding feels not quite right…

However, if I am offended, I'm out of there. If one person offends me several times, no further contact; de-friend if I have to. Just say we're incompatible. I think that's allowed!

On closing, there is no reason for someone to no longer be our friend because they don't want to associate via GAIA. This is the reason that we should make sure our connections are solid and otherwise linked so that we maintain our control of our own [loving] space.

Just my thoughts.

Love to all. Sherri

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I am truly sorry that Peggy J has left.

PJ without a word of explanation removed herself as a friend and blocked me from contact, so I was never able to find out what I had done to upset her, and she steadfastly refused to have any contact.

I suspect, but I don't know, that I was the 'elephant' she referred to.

At no time has it been my intention to offend anyone about anything, and I sincerely apologise to anyone that I have offended.

If I don't know what is wrong I can't fix it.

PJ had been a friend and someone I respected and looked up to.  I didn't say these things while she was here because I didn't want to further damage the relationship and I had hoped she would drop the block so we could work out what I'd done to upset her.  But I wasn't given the opportunity.

Please, Please, Please, if you have an issue with something I've said, message me, give me the opportunity to fix it.  I promise I wont take offense.  It is only in the last couple of days that someone pointed out that I'm sarcastic in my writing manner… honestly I had no idea that was the image I projected.

I am not sarcastic by nature, and this came as a shot out of the blue.

Please give me the benefit of the doubt.  If you have an issue with me message me and give me the opportunity to do something about it.

Otherwise please accept my apology and move on.

In love and compassion

Andrew

 

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Sherri,

I completely remember a couple of threads we shared, where the discussions were highjacked by naysayers… and always respected how you just said.. 'bye bye… no sense losing my loving energy over this.”

I started doing that because of you… thanks for your loving wisdom..

It can be truly astounding how good, loving people can find themselves hurt so badly by negativity…. sometimes we are optimists, hoping we can communicate with naysayers and that they will 'see the light'…

When somebody loves the darkness, it doesn't matter how much light we can shine their way… they will just digger deeper into the burrow to escape it…

Alas.. the carriers of light can get frustrated and disappointed… because out of love they act in kindness, only to be rebuffed by the darkness.

That's why I only carry a single wooden match.  As soon as my fingers start to feel the pain of the flame… I blow it out and accept that I have no more matches for this person of darkness.

Love ya

Dave

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One thing that i have learned from being in community;and specially those who have many friends; is that we then have that many people we care about. And if something hurts some friends of ours, it hurts us too.

It doesn't have to be something said directly to the i-who-is-me but to the i-who-is-me-and-my-friends-and-much-of-gaia   and so on.

In community, our hearts begin to expand, and that can do both: keep us within the community and make us leave.

What causes the scales to tip one way or the other? I think it is when we find ourselves unable to look both ways.

Do we feel we can stay in balance; be aware of each action of ours; and compassionate towards each person.

We cannot control another; but we can balance things out.

That is what this pod is all about. Helping us to share the ways in which we can enhance the experience of community while we are here…and even when we go.

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Hi All,

I have looked this all over , and will study it more again, and also all the links too.

I have hosted a blog today , and maybe here we can try to resolve some of the issues at heart here with compassion , and understanding by all.
Sometimes it just has to be created on a diffefferent level , and also on a space where someone will not take sides.
My main concern is if you you have an issue , and for me I go to the source, and if this does not get resolved , I go to a higher power.
Here ,I have had many concerns , and all of the above.
I am not going to go backwards , I will just hope that the higher power will guide me , and show me the way to go.
I have also asked at one time to talk with the owner as well, due to issues.As I always go to the root of the issue , and do much digging until the weeds fly in the wind.
 please stop by spresd the seeds , and tell many to come drop their seed here:
Again this is on nutural ground , of honour , and respect for all.
Love you all,
L

http://authenticsoul.gaia.com/blog/2008/12/honouring_siona_today?printable=1

Re: Comings and Goings on Gaia

I received this mass e-mailing from Frederik, who I believe is a member of this pod (I'll check that next and I'll inform him I have forwarded to this discussion as I believe it is relevant to what KES posted here), not to divert the attention but as an example of good changes that flow from uncomfortable events -

Deb

[Deceit of the Selfish mind] New Events, Rules.

As to light some recent Events on 'Gaia'

I am just informing that I will more intensively check for bad use of language. (shooting) and too often disrespect to the 'argumentated heavily debated discussions'.

In other words,

I will not have un-social discussion on this community. This to preserve the idealistic conditions in which our thoughts can best sprout, so we may seed our idea's among the people.

Even though I am very well aware this isn't a busy community, I invite you to invite friends, this forum will remain under my dictatorship :P

Regards,
Frederik

[For those of you who hate these kind of mails, don't worry I hardly ever do it!]

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Comings and Goings...Laughter is the best medicine

Under the concept of laughter is the best medicine, don't miss this blog about the discovery of the AGA virus (commonly known in our community as the Elephant Flu) at this brilliant blog by Morningstar/Lisa -

http://morningstar11.gaia.com/blog/2008/12/news_from_the_gaiasphere_4_health_update
Just wanted we needed at this point -

Deb


[mod note: added main thread title:Comings and Goings…; meenakshi 2 dec 08]

Re: Comings and Goings on Gaia

What a great group of people looking at all the perspectives (all the parts of an elephant in the dark) and using what tools they have to share their perspective with others causing all to grow a bit.  There are way to many wonderful analogies for me to point too other than one of the original one's on this thread.

This thread is yet another example of “being the change” no?  I am grateful to read the thoughts and perspectives shared.

Sad for goodbyes and not enough time to post myself yet feeling fine due to the life and discussion carrying on. 

As I quickly (LOL) try to catch up on ZNG after several days absence I'm listening to Ani DiFranco Up, Up, Up,… on the album of the same name.

“Half of learning how to play is learning what not to play with…”

We all find our way and how to share it. 
Blessings to all and thanks for the sharing!
David

Re: Comings and Goings on Gaia

Hello all,

I wanted to write you another post, since I've been a member of this group formally for a long time, but have hardly ever written anything.

I guess it is a question of relevance. I do not want to be left alone on Gaia. I think that is utterly pointless. I would much rather be having interesting conversations. However, I have only rarely found conversations interesting me to join. I have strict relevance-discriminations which many online conversations have failed to meet, although the few I've had have been worthwhile, although never in a pod, ironically.

The community has been a pleasure for me, albeit a mild one, and not one where I've been able to feel and cultivate as much connection as I would like to have. I have rarely been involved since I've joined, outside of updating my own page, and occasionally, my blog. I've just found that so much of what I have to say is so personal, that I'm not sure others would understand, or be interested in what I'm talking about. We all have such different perspectives on what matters, what is worth doing, discussing, so on. It is just so personal.

There are of course, our common values, and I believe that is the greatest strength of the Gaia Community- that we are nearly all striving for most if not all of the same things. Although some people are outspoken in their pursuit of our common values in uncommon, sometimes controversial ways. I recall some drama around posts by Amadon a while back. I didn't particularly agree with much or everything he had to say, or even less so, his ways of putting it, however, I was and am still very supportive of everyone showing up authentically and speaking their own true voices.

I guess I will keep staying in the community, even though to be totally honest I haven't gotten what I hoped to find here. I'll stay on, but I'm kind of disappointed since I haven't connected with people much on spirituality, Integral, and other topics. I have hardly ever received blog comments. I know my blog entries have tended to be long, text narratives, which are not as easy to access or read through than shorter entries.

So many shorter entries seem so vaguely indistinct that they are almost cliches. I look for uniqueness and value originality over commonality. When we post things that are exceptional, personal, and go beyond the many typical, spiritual-speak buzz words, that is valuable. 

I guess the other thing that I try to focus on is action. Words can often be too cheap to be worth writing, or reading. What I do, how I live my values, what I do to practice them, counts for a lot more than my blogging them, and so I see others content in the same way.

That makes me look to find value in others who have little to say, or a lot, but who are talking about what they're doing as well as what they believe, and what kind of results they're getting from their activities. I think that is really important to have all three of those.

There often seem to be a lot of people here who have a lot of nice things to say, but lack the action piece, or the results piece. I hold a really high standard for this kind of stuff, one that I have yet to even live up to, so I don't go around tooting my own horn, and suspect those who do. Humility is much better. Still, I place a high value on taking actions which produce positive results that made a difference.

That emphasis tends to make me more interested in teachers, social entrepreneurs, healers, artists sharing their work, educators, coaches and consultants, and anyone who's living their values out loud. So I want to give props to all my friends who are living that reality- esp the Gaia Leadership Team and my friends on it, esp Siona and Jessica. I admire and appreciate the space held for us.

I think if I could offer some kind of request for the improvement of the community it would be for people to reach out more to each other, be less reticent to dialogue, share, and check out each other's stuff, and see where that goes.  I've done a little reaching out and looking about. Some good has come of that. And I'm one for objectives, so I'm looking for worthy ones.

Something about Gaia that a lot of people seem to love is the philosophical discussion side. I've done so much of that in my life that three things have come out of all that that still have value for me, which I try to focus on here on Gaia, although it has been challenging.

Those three things are, in short: practice, action, and reflection.

Practice, as in Dharma practice, Integral Life Practice, mindfulness, loving kindness, ethics, Noble 8-fold Path, etc.

Action as in engagement, social initiatives, activism, mutual aid, teaching, mentoring, helping, healing, politics, and right livelihood.

Reflection as in the kind of taking stock we do with ourselves and our close intimates at the end of the day, week, year, or other cycle, and the meaning we make of our journeys together.

These are the things which have value and are compelling for me to share about with others. I've hoped to do that on Gaia, and I have a little bit, although much of it has been solitary :(

I've looked around a little to see where I might connect more, and I should probably do a lot more of that, because I do believe this is the right place for me, as much as any e-community can be I suppose, although I need to express my disappointment in having not yet found in the friends I have here, or with non-friends, the kind of connections that support the sharing of practice, action and reflection.

Maybe those are too personal for Gaia Community. I would hope not. If this place is meant to be a general/amateur clearinghouse for spirituality of all kinds, then it may not be of as much interest to me as I thought…. although I will still use it for networking and finding people and events for live sangha/practice as much as I can.

Once again, I had a lot to say. I encourage everyone who read my whole comment and has a desire to respond to write to me. I would like hearing from you, and will certainly respond.

And I'm really glad you're offering the Gaia Scholarship! I applied. Thank you!! :))

Thanks for your attention :)